"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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New Girl has STD??

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I'am seeing a new girl that I found out has an STD. Since I'am not the type of guy to get down with a girl early on I have yet do anything beyond kissing with her. We both initially said that all we were looking for is to have a little fun and spend some time with each other over the summer, nothing serious. We have a lot in common and have great chemistry. I am going away to school in late august where I will be living downtown Chicago. So I won't be around for long anyway. My question is this: She has Chlymadia and is getting treated for it. It is supposed to be curable through a simple treatment of antibiotics. She has slept with 4 people plus one guy who raped her when she was really drunk. She is only 19. Should I stop the relationship right now? I think I should just to look out for my own well being not to mention I hear she was a major drama queen in her younger days. Everything says trouble and yells at me to get out now. It just seems harsh to stop seeing her when she tells me this. Also she didn't openly tell me this. I just said to her last night that it seems like she has something to tell me but isnt. I was right and then I hear this. I wonder how long she would have went without telling me if I didn' get suspicious?

Dizz
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Run.

You don't get any points for being a "nice guy" and sticking around with a drama queen with an STD. Move on. Have no guilt. You can't compromise your health.
 

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Yeah...run.

Dealing with STD + Baggage = a desperate you. Nip that sh*t right now!
 

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I guess that nice guy in me (or the AFC) says be there for her. Like you two said I have no reason to stick around if it compromises my health. I did look in to it and it is supposed to be curable. Even when I was googling that shyt I kept thinking why am I even looking bc you should NOT stick around. I just feel like a c*ck if I stop seeing her for something she had no control over. On the flip side I have everything going on for myself (don't mean to sound like an arrogant prick) and no reason to for me to put up with something like this.

Dizz
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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big dizzle

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I don't see anywhere that it says that can be transferred through kissing? It does say through oral sex but I had none of that with her.
 

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Chlamydia is easily curable by taking ONE pill of flagyl. Easy as pie.

What I would be concerned about right now is if she is harboring any other creepy crawlies.

I suggest that you insist that she gets a full STD test for all the biggies (HIV, Herpes, Syphilis etc.) before you have sex with her in the future.

If she doesn't listen, make no excuses for dropping her instantly. The sheer shock of you laying down that bomb should make her change her mind. If it doesn't, so what, there are plenty of girls out there who do not have STDs.
 

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I had it, trust me,

the worst part was, getting tested, they had to stick a needle in my thing:D .

you do, what you have to do:(

PS. if there is a white/yellowish/smelly discharge from underneath you foreskin, CONGRADS, YOU GOT IT
 

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Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

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what a guilt trip. It sounds like you're preparing to respond to the statement, " well, you would stay around if you really cared about me. This is just a curable disease that I couldn't do anything about. It could have happened to anyone."

Well, that's friggin' spin-doctoring. Do you think a chick would hang around if you had a STD? Moreover, before any of us date, we should be PREPARED to date. If you have a curable STD, get cured and get tested so you KNOW you're clean BEFORE you date.

She was selfish. She wants to date before she has her house in order. She wanted to hook you in then guilt you into sticking around because she doesn't want to be alone. Sure, it could have happened to anyone - however, it happened to HER. She has to be accountable for her actions - and she's not acting that way.

You have nothing to feel guilty about. What other cr*p is this woman going to bring to you? Believe me, people like this never stop this pattern of behavior.
 

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the only reason I say that is because i carry flavored condoms with me EVERYWHERE..... and im not quiet sure how she gave it to me.

plus even a litle cut or sore (bite the side of your cheek) is enought to transfer any bacteria....
 

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Thanks for all the advice fellas. I'll take it and use it for what it is. Thanks again.

Dizz Out
 

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if you really really want to have sex with this *****

1. wait until shes STD free
2. After she thinks shes STD free, take her to get tested for everything.
3 If everything comes out alright....**** her brains out.
4. leave and never see her again. Shes a drama queen, who needs that **** anyways?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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big dizzle

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She is nuts!

Oh boy I am getting a kick out of this chick. Just an update fellas she tried throwing some bullshyt at me about how she is going to move to Vegas to become an escort. I spent about two minutes telling her how irrational she is and how she is setting herself up to get raped a second time. Right there <<<<< is the extent of my effort on this girl. I spent a grand total of $15.00 and very little time with her. Not another minute or dollar will be spent to remain in a relationship (actually we were just dating) with her! As my man Juvenille says, drop it like its hot!

Dizz
 

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Re: She is nuts!

Originally posted by big dizzle
I spent about two minutes telling her how irrational she is and how she is setting herself up to get raped a second time.

Dizz
In my opinion, that was too much time. Any girl who even suggests becoming an escort is a slut who has no morals or sense of hard work. She needs to go starve in Africa or fight in Sudan, to find out how truly difficult life can become.

Overall, good job in letting this one hang out to dry. What a harlot.
 

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head for the hills mate
 

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well as far as the std, she has a cureable kind and if you havent had sex, you should be fine.

as far as the escort idea, this is bad bad.

selling herself as a date? nto a good career...
 

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Dude, she's 19, she's been raped and she has a std. Am I the only one seing a nutjob in creation here?

Run for the hills mate.
 

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