"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hiya.


I went yesterday to my weekly salsa class. There a new girl came to try the lessons.

She was kind of cute so I thought about getting her number but I started to overthink and since it was her first class, I did not want to look desperate by going so direct.
I talked to her briefly and that was it. I repeat, she was new there, I wanted her number, but I though it may be better if I waited till next class, talk again, build rapport etc
BUT now I'm feeling bad because she may never come back, so I should just have done what I wanted to do. Damn it.
Many times a situation like this presents, and I never see the girl again.


What would you have done? get her number that same day, wait?


P.S.

Im thinking now that I should not be focusing in getting her number because then I enter this bad circle in which Im overthinking: 'shes cute, she's talking to her friend, I dont want to look weird, I should wait...blah, blah....'
I should just go to talk to her, and if she's nice, then after some minutes ask for her number.



Thanks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Single4Life

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Stop feeling ashamed of being a man. You have a penis, you have sex drive, you love women and want to date them and fk them.

So be direct and stop ***** footing around the issue. You like her? Give her a stare right in her eyes and smile. Flirt with her in a NON-CREEPY and playful way. Make your intentions with her clear from the get go, but do it in a playful non-threatening, confident way.

Yes, you should have gotten her number. Too much thinking. Being direct and showing no shame/honesty is good.
 
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Think you should of talked to her. Better to feel the pinch of rejection that the agony of regret.

Next time do what I do whenever I see a girl I like... tell her you're taking her out for drinks or food, bring her back to your place (or her place or in the back of your car), sleep with her and if she's good in bed, ask her her number.
 
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Hi.

I'll do better next time, and I have decided that from now on, everytime I see a girl I like and I have the chance to talk to her I will. I wont overthink, Ill just go to talk to her, and if she's ok get her number. I do not want to feel the agony of regret anymore, uhm.

Ill see if next week she comes again, I hope.

The thing is, I was attracted to this girl but, she was too young (around 18-19) and I did not like very much her face and they way she was dressing.
BUT she had a very sexy body, very nice hair, so I'd like to nail her, thats for sure.
But the age issue was disturbing me, cause Im 26...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pyros said:
What would you have done? get her number that same day, wait?
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What I would have done is used that salsa to go to a salsa club where there will be tons of equally, if not more, hot women who want to be led around the floor by a guy who knows what he's doing.

I've been dancing competitively for 8 years. Trust me on this one.
 
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imo, if she is in your class assuming you're going to see here a bunch of times you're probably better off building some comfort and rapport rather than going full on aggresive ask for number right away.
 
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You should have definately talked to her, established rapport, and mentioned potentially going dancing elsewhere (you should know of places to go if you are taking lessons). Then, depending on how much you like her and how much chemistry there was, you should have gone for a number.
 
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