Raptured Phoenix
Don Juan
You might be thinking "Duh Phoenix, we have boy parts and they have girl parts." Yes that true but thats not even close to the point I want to make.
See the problem is, you think that girls are like YOU, but this is not so. You are a guy, and girls are NOT! "So what we are all people, we are all equal, blah blah blah"
Thats bull****. What I want to emphasise is that women are a completely different form of being. IF you are having problems grasping what I mean, it might be easier for you to think of them as a different "animal" or "species" or "breed."
I think the biggest problem that newbie DJ run into is NOT because they lack confidence, or aren't funny, not ****y enough, wear bad clothes, whatever else you read about; the biggest problem they have is that they dont understand women.
You might be wondering if men will ever understand women, I'm not sure if anyone can ever completely do that, but you can sure get damn close. Close enough to serve your purposes.
The fact is, most guys don't have enough experience with females. By experience I dont mean "sex" or "dating" or "picking up" or anything that complex, I simply mean they aren't familiar with females. They are like ****ing exotic sports cars, or the latest electronic gadget. You dunno what it is or how it works you just know you want one.
Thats the root of the problem, the old school time "cooties" bull****.
Cooties are the reason for AFCs
In normal society many guys dont have girl friends...
in fact... many AFCs who come here don't even regularly talk or associate with girls. They come here and want to learn a ****ing line so they will magically get laid! You know what that will get you? ****ed over.
It doesnt matter how much ***** you get, the fact is you are still a little ***** if you dont understand how women function because you are NOT in control (you are just lucky).
When you decide you are tired of being Average, Frustrated, and a Chump and that you want to be a Don Juan dont start trying to learn **** about how to get chicks to like you, it wont mean **** if you dont know WHY they like you, but just that they do.
Go and make some female friends. Yes, learn how to talk so you dont sound like a ****ing molestor when you open your mouth and drool comes out. But dont try to snag chicks.
The pressure is off, dont talk to girls you want to date and try to be their friend. Go talk to chicks you will NOT EVER date. Assume that when you become their friend you will NEVER date/****/anything them. This way there is no pressure, your mind can shut the **** up, and you will start to pay attention to EXTERNAL input.
NOW, pay attention to what is happening around you. How your girl friends act, their body language, their speaking patterns. Ask them about this and that and listen to what they say. (This will mostly all be complete bull**** because as little as guys understand girls, girls understand themselves even less). So dont believe anything they tell you, but just note WHAT they tell you.
Now, spend a few feeks watching what they DO. Compare it to what they tell you. You will automatically realize everything they say is complete bull****.
It will take you months most likely before you will get a good idea of how girls are. In this time I by NO MEANS want you to BECOME a girl and start going to slumber parties and dreaming about pink ponies or any of that ****. You are there only for research. Keep a journal, write down things you think are quirky, different from what you would do, the same as what you would do, etc. etc.
NEVER during this time get involved with any girl romantically/sexually no matter whether she is your friend or not.
For those of you who are interested in what kinds of things you might be looking for I will provide a paraphrased excerpt from a book I had about brain development and differences between males and females when it comes to relationships.
I will assume you accept evolution as the most likely explanation for the world's diverse life.
We will not go back TOO far in evolution. Maybe back to the time of cave people. You see back in that time the world was a very different place. In this world, there were males and females. The males went out to hunt, the females stayed together and socialized, raised the young, etc.
Over time, the males evolved more specialized to their purpose as "humans." We got stronger bodies because we had to fight/hunt/kill and that required strength. We gained spatial abilities because we had to navigate the land and remember where resources were allocated, and where dangers lurked. We had to become logical because we only had so much time and strength to get enough food, we had to make decisions about what is the best action.
Over the same time, females evolved more specialized to THEIR purpose as "humans." They did not hunt, and did not need as strong bodies as men. They did not need spatial abilities because they didnt navigate, and they did not have to rationalize their actions to the point of males. There just weren't as many decisions for them to make.
What they evolved were COMMUNICATION skills. Empathy, talking, listening, judging, and evaluating other people. The differences that you should be more concerned with, however, are SEXUAL in nature.
Women are born with all of the reproductive potential they will ever have. And they spend their life loosing it as soon after they go through puberty. They only produce ONE chance at procreation PER MONTH. And this one chance only lasts for about 24 hours (after that the egg breaks apart if it is not fertilized).
Men produce about 6billion chances of life... almost every day. The current population of humans in the world is 6billion. Everytime you jack off you kill the potential life for a WHOLE PLANET OF HUMANITY.
Now let us think about a common assumption: Men can reproduce more easily so they will try to find more mates to knock up and reproduce the most, this will lead to more people, and will be evolutionarily desireable. So, of course, this must mean that men must not be capable of caring for their mate(s) as much as women. Right?
See the problem is, you think that girls are like YOU, but this is not so. You are a guy, and girls are NOT! "So what we are all people, we are all equal, blah blah blah"
Thats bull****. What I want to emphasise is that women are a completely different form of being. IF you are having problems grasping what I mean, it might be easier for you to think of them as a different "animal" or "species" or "breed."
I think the biggest problem that newbie DJ run into is NOT because they lack confidence, or aren't funny, not ****y enough, wear bad clothes, whatever else you read about; the biggest problem they have is that they dont understand women.
You might be wondering if men will ever understand women, I'm not sure if anyone can ever completely do that, but you can sure get damn close. Close enough to serve your purposes.
The fact is, most guys don't have enough experience with females. By experience I dont mean "sex" or "dating" or "picking up" or anything that complex, I simply mean they aren't familiar with females. They are like ****ing exotic sports cars, or the latest electronic gadget. You dunno what it is or how it works you just know you want one.
Thats the root of the problem, the old school time "cooties" bull****.
Cooties are the reason for AFCs
In normal society many guys dont have girl friends...
in fact... many AFCs who come here don't even regularly talk or associate with girls. They come here and want to learn a ****ing line so they will magically get laid! You know what that will get you? ****ed over.
It doesnt matter how much ***** you get, the fact is you are still a little ***** if you dont understand how women function because you are NOT in control (you are just lucky).
When you decide you are tired of being Average, Frustrated, and a Chump and that you want to be a Don Juan dont start trying to learn **** about how to get chicks to like you, it wont mean **** if you dont know WHY they like you, but just that they do.
Go and make some female friends. Yes, learn how to talk so you dont sound like a ****ing molestor when you open your mouth and drool comes out. But dont try to snag chicks.
The pressure is off, dont talk to girls you want to date and try to be their friend. Go talk to chicks you will NOT EVER date. Assume that when you become their friend you will NEVER date/****/anything them. This way there is no pressure, your mind can shut the **** up, and you will start to pay attention to EXTERNAL input.
NOW, pay attention to what is happening around you. How your girl friends act, their body language, their speaking patterns. Ask them about this and that and listen to what they say. (This will mostly all be complete bull**** because as little as guys understand girls, girls understand themselves even less). So dont believe anything they tell you, but just note WHAT they tell you.
Now, spend a few feeks watching what they DO. Compare it to what they tell you. You will automatically realize everything they say is complete bull****.
It will take you months most likely before you will get a good idea of how girls are. In this time I by NO MEANS want you to BECOME a girl and start going to slumber parties and dreaming about pink ponies or any of that ****. You are there only for research. Keep a journal, write down things you think are quirky, different from what you would do, the same as what you would do, etc. etc.
NEVER during this time get involved with any girl romantically/sexually no matter whether she is your friend or not.
For those of you who are interested in what kinds of things you might be looking for I will provide a paraphrased excerpt from a book I had about brain development and differences between males and females when it comes to relationships.
I will assume you accept evolution as the most likely explanation for the world's diverse life.
We will not go back TOO far in evolution. Maybe back to the time of cave people. You see back in that time the world was a very different place. In this world, there were males and females. The males went out to hunt, the females stayed together and socialized, raised the young, etc.
Over time, the males evolved more specialized to their purpose as "humans." We got stronger bodies because we had to fight/hunt/kill and that required strength. We gained spatial abilities because we had to navigate the land and remember where resources were allocated, and where dangers lurked. We had to become logical because we only had so much time and strength to get enough food, we had to make decisions about what is the best action.
Over the same time, females evolved more specialized to THEIR purpose as "humans." They did not hunt, and did not need as strong bodies as men. They did not need spatial abilities because they didnt navigate, and they did not have to rationalize their actions to the point of males. There just weren't as many decisions for them to make.
What they evolved were COMMUNICATION skills. Empathy, talking, listening, judging, and evaluating other people. The differences that you should be more concerned with, however, are SEXUAL in nature.
Women are born with all of the reproductive potential they will ever have. And they spend their life loosing it as soon after they go through puberty. They only produce ONE chance at procreation PER MONTH. And this one chance only lasts for about 24 hours (after that the egg breaks apart if it is not fertilized).
Men produce about 6billion chances of life... almost every day. The current population of humans in the world is 6billion. Everytime you jack off you kill the potential life for a WHOLE PLANET OF HUMANITY.
Now let us think about a common assumption: Men can reproduce more easily so they will try to find more mates to knock up and reproduce the most, this will lead to more people, and will be evolutionarily desireable. So, of course, this must mean that men must not be capable of caring for their mate(s) as much as women. Right?