"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NEW FOLKS LOOKING FOR LTRs: Read the SoSuave Legends - POOK & ANTI-DUMP'S MACHINE

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I have just finished reading Pook and his narrative of Anti-Dump's Machine out of the DJ Bible.

This stuff is of LEGEND.

There has been a lot of new members recently asking beginner relationship game questions. Take 20 minutes and read through these links, you will be glad you did - they are very funny and easy readings, but a pot of gold of long-term relationship tactics in dealing with finding QUALITY women.

Be well,

Exodus


Anti-Dump's Machine (Part I: Interest Level)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part II: More Interest Level)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part III: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IV: Embrace ACTION, Woman's Weak Spot)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part V: Women and Information)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VI: Three Words To Change Your Life!)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VII: Become a Mystery!)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part VIII: Approaching Women)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part IX: ALWAYS Be Prepared)

Anti-Dump's Machine (Part X: After the Dates)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great post. It's unfortunate that very few people take the time to sit down and internalize these concepts, especially beginners that want a quick fix.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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JohnChops said:
i love ADs machine, i compiled them into a single PDF and read them many times. ****ing love it.
Maybe you can put it on Google Drive (or some other public file share) and share out a link here for download, that would be really swell.

I had to tenaciously copy and paste every damn link from the DJ Bible and insert it here, but I think it is worth it in the end for new members.


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Don't you think its kind of irresponsible to be encouraging newly unplugged members to pursue ltr's?

Especially if they are really afc, this will seem like an easy way out. Not that their is anything wrong with an ltr, you have to have had some success with women before you consider going that route.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think the newbies should spend more time reading threads in the "Don Juan Tips" subforum than here.
 

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Here it is, gentleman. Valuable enough for me to spend 30 minutes compiling it into a pdf and uploading it for the world to download. It's 50 pages:

Anti-Dump's Machine PDF

Let me know if you have any issues with the download.
 

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MikeOck said:
Here it is, gentleman. Valuable enough for me to spend 30 minutes compiling it into a pdf and uploading it for the world to download. It's 50 pages:

Anti-Dump's Machine PDF

Let me know if you have any issues with the download.
Works for me +1

Thanks for the hard work, MikeOCK - now I can read it while I crap in the toilet with the hardcopy :moon:

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MikeOck said:
Here it is, gentleman. Valuable enough for me to spend 30 minutes compiling it into a pdf and uploading it for the world to download. It's 50 pages:

Anti-Dump's Machine PDF

Let me know if you have any issues with the download.
beat me to it. it took me a couple days to find my version buried in my google drive.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is the thread that every person here needs to refer to not make a thread. Read this
 

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Thanks for re-posting and bumping. Realistically SoSuav should just be this thread. Would help so many guys and cause fewer problems.

I want to bounce something off you guys. What I've always loved about the Anti-Dump style is you choose the relationship YOU want. For me, I like a girl who texts me between dates because she just can't wait to talk to me. She initiates plans from time to time. NO NEEDY/CRAZY ONES who over-text. I just like a moderate amount of retention and I don't like always being the one to make plans (after the first few dates).

Something I encounter frequently are girls who always enthusiastically say YES to my date invites, we'll have a blast together, have great sex, and this can go on for weeks or months - but I always have to be the one initiating things. Again, I don't mind doing this for the first three dates, but what I've started to do now is to go radio silence after those first few dates and wait to see if she gets in touch with me. If she does, great, she's an LTR candidate. If she doesn't, I usually just never contact her again.

Am I being a jerk? These girls could very well be high IL, they just need to be led constantly. Thing is, I don't want a GF that needs to be led ALL THE TIME. After the first few dates I want to see her courting me a bit. Is this nuts? I know it's important for guys to be action-oriented and I am. I get the number, the date, the sex. I just want to see some effort on their part after a certain amount of time or else I disqualify them. Is this premature?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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