"New feelings"

[amunra]

Hello everyone, just found this forum while searching the internet and wanted to give it a try to find out what I'm experiencing this last month.

Sorry if I can't spell some things right since english is not my main language.


It all started some time ago with a friend of mine (girl). In a night we were having some drinks like usual but that night we drank a bit more and ended up sensual touching between us (if you understand). That night we were staying at some friends house and when we almost got a bit further than the touching but suddently we stopped because we agreed that alchool was having some affects on all that.

Some days after she confronts me and tells me she's afraid that she's feeling a bit more than friendship about me and ends up by kissing me just to prove if she was falling in love. Well, she got the answer she was searching for, the feeling was really going deeper. The problem, I haven't felt the same and told her the truth.

We are still great friends off course but all the touching comes up when we are alone. She starts with some love bites and I end up answering to these acts and go trough it.

The problem: I'm affraid I can hurt her feelings by doing this even though she says that there's no problem on all of it. Nonetheless I feel great when I'm with her and I enjoy her company. So, in what kind of relationship is this turning anyway?

I would appreciate some answers. Has anyone got trough something like this?
Thanks for the attention

 

[Bible_Belt]

Men and women can't be just friends. Accept it. As evidence of that truth about life, she likes you as more than a friend and wants to have sex with you. She has made that as obvious as any woman ever will.

She is attracted to your ambivalence. Everyone wants what they can't quite have. If you were to suddenly profess your undying love to her, it might be fun for a day or two, but she would then get bored of it all very quickly. Somehow I suspect that you have never had that experience yet, unlike most of the guys on this forum, which is why you still care about her feelings.

Speaking of suspicions, your post reminds me of this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=185693

I'm guessing you don't have much experience with girls? It's ok if you don't. Everyone has to start somewhere. But my point is that your lack of experience clouds your judgment

 

[amunra]

You're right about my experience, with my age, I really had too few relationships (two to be precise). I'm just difficult to fall in love with someone and there are things that make me feel a bit confused like this one. Never had a friend telling me her feelings like this.

I just wanted to avoid losing her friendship by hurting her.

Loved the reply to the post.