"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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New DJ Junior looking for guidance.

Bince

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Hello guys,

I'm relatively new to the whole concept of Game and seduction. I'm 24 AFC in the middle of a 180 degree reversal of my lifestyle and mindset. I'm eager to learn, fail and repeat anew. I've read the basis and I'm looking for some guidance regarding what I should absorb next.

I'm looking in particular into meaningful texts about transformational change, routine scripts and fundamentals.

Thanks.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheCWord

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Hey DJJ, welcome and good luck.

You should read The Book of Pook.

Pook focused almost completely on improving the self rather than becoming some kind of a PUA. Sounds like that's what you need right now.

Read as much of the book as you can, but DEFINITELY read "Kill That Desperation" and "15 Lessons."
 

Bince

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@TheCWord : I will more certainly look into it. Thanks for the link.

@TheException : I can't send PMs for some reason...maybe my account is too new.
 

HalfPUAHalfAFC

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Bottom of the page: The DJ Bible

Blog sites:

The Rational Male
Chateau Hartiste
RooshV

These are considered some of the "classics". YMMV
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bince

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I'm good thanks, backseatjuan. Have we met before?

I just finished reading Pook's 15 lessons and the 14th really struk me like a thunderbolt. Word for word what I am living right now giving me an epiphany on this monday evening. I never realised that I always seem to fall on that very same pattern over and over : hook up with multiples girls, have casual sex on a daily basis, meet one chick in particular, ditch all the others, fall in love with her and get rejected.

Thanks for the links, gents
 

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Hey Bince glad to see you here. I'm going to tell you something you must know... something I wish was said on here more and something I wish I knew at the start.

I'm giving you 2 pieces of advice, well not really... take them as orders... or waste your time. It's up to you.



1. First and foremost, find an expert and have him guide you personally; Pay him if you need to (there are coaches out there who offer that service). You took the right step in coming here by coming to this site for advice in the first place, take it further by getting a mentor or a coach. Reason being that they can give you strategic advice that you need right now, it's more focused and direct than articles and forum posts. And I'll be honest, some people on this site who offer advice seem completely clueless, and taking their advice means your wasting months of time listening to stuff that doesn't even work that well.

The biggest reason I have seen changes with my dating/sex life is because I employed a Pickup/dating coach to help me... I'm not going to sell you any service or advice, but seriously look into it if you're serious about getting this area of your life handled.


2. Take responsibility for your results, if your not seeing change in the span of 2 months, something is up, and you need to find what.



Good luck
 
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