Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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New coworker extremely flirty

dontwannabeafc

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Just got a new co worker this week, shes a legit 8.5/10 30 year old single milf with a very tight body. From her first day there I have been the one instructed to kind of help her get situated since her trainer had not been there all week.

-Tries bringing up details about her personal life a lot
-Has asked me if i'm married or if I have kids
-Started complementing me on how I seem to be the go to person in the office and how she will just go to me for everything, realistically I can say I outshine most people in the office while only having been there for 1.5 years.
-Tells me I remind her of Ronnie from Jersey Shore
-Has grabbed my arms
-Has pulled my lanyard and touched my chest multiple times

She did these last 4 in front of another male coworker who has been trying to chat it up with her...

-Sits extremely close and leans into me when I'm doing work on my PC.
-Plays with her hair when I'm talking to her
-Began calling me Ronnie and asking me where I have been when she doesn't see me around the office.

I'm currently not in the best shape of my life, just look kinda thick like Ronnie from Jersey shore, maybe a bit fatter which makes me wonder is this chick attracted?

I'm not looking for any kind of relationship and know not to **** where I eat, but I have to admit this kinda situation has made the work place a little more exciting for me and I would like to have some fun... how would you guys approach this....

Might be best to just ignore it and not mess up my job situation..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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bigneil

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Don't sh*t where you eat.
Don't get your meat where you get your bread.

If you must, take her out to lunch. See if there is interest. Tell her you MUST be 100% discreet.

Know that other coworkers have a crush on her, and how women can't hide their feelings, and how much those men will despise you. And if you date her and she dumps you for a coworker, you might just know how they feel (that type of office karma happened to me).
 

Pimp-sicle

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Alright, everyone here is gonna give you the standard "don't hook up or date chicks from work" and for the most part I'd say they are right in giving that advice.

However, i will say that as long as you:

-have other options outside the office
-are openly honest of your intentions
-properly screen the girl to make sure she's not a a complete whack job


you can have fun and not have to worry about any major consequences within the work place.

Looks like you've spent a lot of time analyzing her every move, if your getting the buying signals flirt back with her and judge her reaction.

What I like to do with girls I work with (esp super hot ones) is pay them absolutely no attention at all (other than what I have to for work purposes). Then flirt with them really good for a couple days, then back to completely ignoring (push-pull dynamic). In a majority of these cases they will start initiating a lot of flirting with you and make it really easy to go out with them.

In your case I would start with upping the flirting a bit. If she's biting, then I'd take her out to lunch (lunch is harmless and I doubt she will think anything of it). Be a little more free on the lunch and if she's still showing you the right signs, carry on from there.


But as I said above, MAKE SURE you do your homework on the girl first, (get a good feel for her personality and character), are open and honest with her about your intentions and have a life (and other women) outside of work.







PIMP
 

ilikecharlene

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Given how women express attraction, I say she's into.

I don't agree wholly with don't **** where you eat. It depends on who it is, where they are, and how much a relationship would **** up your job in the organisation.

I agree in taking her out to lunch, or even adding her as a facebook friend, chat, meet her after work or on a weekend or something.
 

Johnnyventana

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Hot, single 30 year old, just a little too all about you?

Red Flag.

You'll see.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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dontwannabeafc

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Ive kinda been playful and ****y/funny with her, but I truly want to gauge what kind of girl she is and proceed cautiously, There is also a possibility I will promote into another office in the next 6 months... Ill see if she wants to go to lunch this week..
 

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Update: Didn't see her much today as I had work to do out of the office and didnt come back until around 3pm. Once again the flirting continued, we were having a conversation about the newest movies and one of my dam female coworkers comes in my cubicle and mentions my gf :cuss: ...... She kind of shrugged it off and continued to talk and flirt... Might ask her out to lunch on Wednesday as tomorrow is my day off...
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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Just hand her your business card and instruct her to call you after work.
 

AlexLefty

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Stop thinking so much.
Go to lunch.
See what happens.

Bottom line, do something.
 
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