"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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New Cold Approach

CapiCrimini

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Okay i was just at the mall buying something and I discovered this one...

I was in a rush so this was by accident but It got me another number :).

The women was looking at something[CD's] she was about a foot and some away. Just watching. Me being in a rush zoomed pass through her space. Now without thinking as always I turned to say excuse me, well with my new DJ mindset I also used this for a convo. initiation.

So, this was my new cold approach, easy and simple, almost forces eye contact, and a great excuse for a convo initiation.

Can be used almost in any situation...

Hope you enjoyed.

~Capi
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dereklearnslow

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I don't get it.....

So your new cold approach is saying 'excuse me'?
 

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i understand, but can u elborate abit. give us an extended example
 

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No. It wasn't excuse me...

You realize when in a semi-crowded are like a hallway, some people are looking at something, say a poster on the wall...

there concentration is on that picture.

Now if your in an empty hall this would look stupid of course, so it needs to be fairly busy.

So inbetween the person who is looking at the picture is some space, maybe a foot or two. So if you cut through that space her concentration goes straight to you, and it almost forces a convo.

OF course this isn't something you can do every day. It needs to be a fairly busy place.

This is really hard to explain. Maybe I'll draw a picture.:( ..hmmm...
 

CapiCrimini

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here

see a semi-crowded hall... your the blue dot she's the red. yellows are random people.

the green line was teh path I took. where the line turns is where I turned my head back and caught eye contact...

do you understand now... you don't have to say excuse me, you can start the convo however you want. It was just an easy way to start a cold approach I found by accident and it worked quite nicely.

though It needs more field testing so far so good.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TDOT

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So in other words your cold approach is to step into their path
forcing them to notice you.

Simple but brilliant.

I will try it.
 
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