New bakery girl

[_sideways_]

In a nutshell...i jog to the gym at 6 a.m.
After, i casually make my way home and stop by a doughnut bakery spot...i order a small coffee and maybe fresh baked goodie.
And the girl is pretty so i make small talk.
Im not her type. No big deal.

But today there was a new girl working...way more prettier...so i just made small talk with the owner lady. Shes older, she likes me...
I left.
But...now...how do i make my way into the new one...and they all know i tried with the other one.?
I like this bakery...i sit down and sip a coffee and chill.
But girls talk...and im pretty sure that im going to be labeled a player or whatever to the new girl...and she hasnt even spoken with me. All i know is i said hello on my way out and i like her

 

[The Duke]

Slow your approach, play it down the middle, flirt with all of them. They all want a wanted man. Put them in a position to compete for your attention. A little competition anxiety amongst women will pay dividends for your cause .

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Don't be in a rush to try and game every single girl that smiles in your direction.

Just enjoy the company and let it happen naturally, if ever.

Don't force it or you'll ruin a good thing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

"I jog to the gym, then I eat a pastry."

That's pretty funny.

They put whey protein in lots of baked goods. Maybe talk to her about baking and ask her to make something just for you that isn't unhealthy.

 

[BeExcellent]

"I jog to the gym, then I eat a pastry."

That's pretty funny.

They put whey protein in lots of baked goods. Maybe talk to her about baking and ask her to make something just for you that isn't unhealthy.

I thought that too, hilarious.

But when I was running 40 miles a week in my 20s, and weighed 115 at 5'6".....more than one date was like,

"Wow! You are a woman that will actually eat!"

I was like listen, I run 40 miles a week and go out Latin or CW or ballroom dancing 3 times a week, I can 'eat' because I am so active! Lol.

I still am quite trim, but I can't 'eat' like that anymore, hilarious.

OP needs to slow his roll. He's acting like the young bull. He needs to act like the old bull. I'll let him figure out, or someone else can explain, the reference.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So essentially you undo the work you did in the gym directly after going?

 

[corrector]

im going to be labeled a player

Why would you think you'd be labelled a player if you got rejected by the first girl? You'd more likely be labelled a creep rather than a player if they talk. But that's what is women do.

 

[plumber]

continue to be friendly with the owner. eventually you can ask her for advice about such things but in a generalized way not identifying her workers.

 

[sevbucmash]

new girl working...way more prettier

Old girl got fired!

Be more direct. Ask what she does after work and whether she wants to go grab a bite with you.

 

[Jor-El]

Is she an older woman in the bakery ? Could be grab a granary

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

In a nutshell...i jog to the gym at 6 a.m.
After, i casually make my way home and stop by a doughnut bakery spot...i order a small coffee and maybe fresh baked goodie.
And the girl is pretty so i make small talk.
Im not her type. No big deal.

But today there was a new girl working...way more prettier...so i just made small talk with the owner lady. Shes older, she likes me...
I left.
But...now...how do i make my way into the new one...and they all know i tried with the other one.?
I like this bakery...i sit down and sip a coffee and chill.
But girls talk...and im pretty sure that im going to be labeled a player or whatever to the new girl...and she hasnt even spoken with me. All i know is i said hello on my way out and i like her

This is indeed a tricky situation...and I can relate, because I go through the same thing at work.

My best piece of advice is; see if you can catch the one that you like on a day that the other chick doesn't work, and then go for it.

Cut the small talk, keep it short and ask for her # (or give her yours).

And after that, find a different coffee shop to frequent...as things tend to get awkward, especially if she rejects you.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Another avenue entirely to consider is this...

Ask yourself how much you enjoy this bakery. Is it such an awesome place you want to keep going? I have several places around town I enjoy frequenting. It is a good thing to have places you pop into often where several people notice, remember, and greet you with enthusiasm. I take any date I want 'something more' with to these places. ESPECIALLY early on dates or in some cases, first dates.

If you don't fancy this bakery over any other, I say go for it if you like. I will agree however with Venom that after you do this it's probably a shrewd move to find a different place to go. At least for a while. Being flirtatious isn't a bad thing at all and will make building trust with a potential date/gf easier when she sees other people (even women) reacting positively and excitedly with you when you go into a place.

IDK, man. At the end of the day it's your brain cogs turning and your feet shuffling. Do what you feel is best for your situation. If you like her... Why wait until she stops working there or until some nerdy and charismatic biker on a Road King wants a bacon scone, an espresso AND her number?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

 

[Travel memoir21]

There's a story in which a young bull was asking a Wiser old Bull on how to screw a bunch of cows in a farm. He Simply reminded him and told him this ' take it easy young bull, mingle and SLOWLY worked your way in each day and in no time you'll be fvcken like rabbits.'.....or in my case dating around and forming relationships, it's up to you as a man to dictate where your relationship is headed.