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[surface1030]

hey. i'm currently in the middle of the dj bible. i love it! so far its been helping me in my confidence boost. i've never approached a girl in my life. and i'm really looking forward to the next one that catches my eye soon. since i never done it before, i was wondering if you dj's can help me out. i know look for eye contact for a little white, then smile, then go approach her. i dont really know what to say except for:
hi my name is mike, whats yours?

what do i say after that?

i remember last week i was at the dmv getting my permit and there was this hot chick behind me, and i wanted to introduce myself because we kept on eye balling each other. but then in my mind i was like, okay after i introduce myself, what am i going to be talking about. i'm going to get stuck after i say my name and that is going to be embarrassing.

so blah blah blah, i just wanna know what i should say. give me ideas, thank.

 

[comic_relief]

welcome to the boards

This question has been asked over and over.

To answer your question with a question is "Have you read the part of the bible about coversation? Have you?" Read pimpologist and the poster known as Mr. (senor) fingers.

But to give you a idea is use your surroundings as fodder to make a convo.

I would make a sample convo but I cut my finger today and cant type good. when it heals I will give you one.

 

[Wiesman44]

Well, if you've never had a g/f or never really talk to girls, I'd recommend, next time you're at a party, go up to a friend of a friend (girl of course), introduce yourself and say so and so is your friend. You can easily start up conversation like that. Then once u get more experienced, u can start going up to girls out of the blue.

 

[surface1030]

okay cool. im' gonna try that next time. thanks

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

after you get eye contact a good opener would be "hi, i noticed you staring at me from across the street (or room, or what ever) i touhght id come over and talk to you" she probably will not say much as it took her by suprise, so follow up with "im *insert name*" and put your hand out to shake hands, she will do the same, but if she does not tell you her name just ask her, you could say "i didnt quite catch your name."

After this you can start with the normal talk "what are you doing in town (or where ever you are) today?" after she replys you say what you are doing, come with a good answer prepaired that will allow for the conversation to continure " im going to the cinema to see *film name*" now you can start tlaking aobut films, nearly every one must like films so you can ask her what her favourite fims are, from here on the options are limitless

if you got any other ideas feel free to add to this

hope iv been a help

 

[Dukester]

I totally agree w/ check mate kid. that's how ya gotta do it to start up a convo. talk about something that appeals to everyone, movies work, try and stay away from politics and sports though. maybe ask her where she goes to school, grade, major (if in college), etc... things like that. Like those shi**y ice breakers that they make ya do in high school, but it's more relaxed, and you move at yoru own pace w/ a personal convo. just have confidence, that's what it takes to be a DJ. Dont pull that AFC shi* taht youve been by not talking to girls

 

[jonny football hero]

Look up "nouning".

Quick example:


DJ: Hey, i'm Tom, whats your name?
HB: hi i'm "Grace"
DJ:What brings you here?
HB: Well, I came to visit my aunt, i'm from NYC and i love the shopping down here

Now you have three topics to talk about (Her aunt), (New york city) and (Shopping).

Keep doing that and it'll all be good.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

yeh thats good, i heared about this in a quick tip on 'the art of conversation' it says that you should ask questions about what the person had just said, like jonny mentioned, rather then talking blindly, ignoring what has been said which is soo easy to do.

jonny, you mentioned asking "What brings you here?" personally i would not ask this, i find it anoying when some one asks me that unless its some one i know and i met them some where they genuinly were not expecitng to see me. This i because to me "What brings you here?" sounds as if your are suprised, kind of saying you shouldnt be here. well thats just personaly what i think but im sure it could be fine, and the tip as a whoel is a good one jonny, so well done for that.

 

[jonny football hero]

I'm not saying use my guide to the letter. Just use a line that makes her say something that you can use. As long as she can't answer Yes or No, you should be fine.

p.s. Thanks for the input check_mate