"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New Anxiety to my approach

ChanceBoudreaux

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I've practically faced and conquered my AA, your standard AA that everyone has but in doing so i've come face to face with a new Anxiety in its place

basically i think i may have approached nearly every girl in my city (ok not every single one but the ones that tickle my fancy)

if my approach does not go well with said girl , i instantly forget who or what they look like

i could literally approach them the next day without realising i have already approached them beforehand

this one girl i have approached over 10 times, she remembered me, infact my last approach with this girl she ran my routine before i could on her :crackup:

theres probably 20+ girls that i seem to always bump in to for some odd reason,

and this is where my Anxiety comes in, every time i begin to make an approach, i start to second guess as to wheather i have approached her before and its starting to really mess with my game
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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r0cky

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This is why routines suck. Stop using them and use observational openers, do some fluff talk, if you really love routines then use them after transtioning.
 

ChanceBoudreaux

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its not so much as the routine, but that i literally dont remember them, i dont dwell on those girl who i had a bad approach with and thats where the problem lies

girls who i have had bad approachs with should have a sign on there forehead, a red flag saying "approached already save your breath"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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kingsam

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the problem with routines is that they are often easy to spot by girls you know about "game" - which is especially possible if you live in big cities (e.g. PU hotspots such as Leister Square in london...). for example when they hear an out of context opinion opener their "PUA alarm" goes off and your already out before you have a chance!

if you use more natural/situational openers (ie you think of on the spot for example ) they will just think you are a cool guy who has good chat when you see them again and again*

how do you not remember them? are u drinking lots when you are out?
- expnsive, bad for health, bad for game
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* im not saying all canned lines/routines are bad at all - having some to use can be great , its just that lots of women are aware of PUA stuff nowadays, so u gotta be careful

also having good natural game (*cough*RSD*cough*) can be used for other areas of life - buddies, random people, small chat at work, business networking!
 
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