new and needs help.

[smeckle]

I've been reading posts on this forum for a while now, and never posted before. Before now, that is.

I recently started dating a wonderful girl, and I couldn't be happier. But, there is one little snag.

She dropped a comment the other night about how I can't (read: won't) talk about how I feel about her.

She knows that I care about her, I've told her. I've told her how I felt, but apparently I didn't do it right?

Granted, I'm fairly new to the bf/gf thing (haven't dated much), but I really don't want to eff this up.

If I were in love with her, it would be as simple as telling her that I loved her. But I'm not. So... I don't really know how.

Any help at all would be greatly appreciated gentlemen. I've read your posts before, and most of you are pretty smart. So, I'd like to hear what you have to say.

Feel free to ask any questions. Thanks guys!

 

[Juanito]

I've been reading posts on this forum for a while now, and never posted before. Before now, that is.

I recently started dating a wonderful girl, and I couldn't be happier. But, there is one little snag.

She dropped a comment the other night about how I can't (read: won't) talk about how I feel about her.

She knows that I care about her, I've told her. I've told her how I felt, but apparently I didn't do it right?

Granted, I'm fairly new to the bf/gf thing (haven't dated much), but I really don't want to eff this up.

If I were in love with her, it would be as simple as telling her that I loved her. But I'm not. So... I don't really know how.

Any help at all would be greatly appreciated gentlemen. I've read your posts before, and most of you are pretty smart. So, I'd like to hear what you have to say.

Feel free to ask any questions. Thanks guys!

congrats on ur success with ur wonderful girl!

dont worry too much about how to express your inner feelings to ur GF

just dont tell her that you love her...

if you really wanna express your love towards her, do it with your body through action, not words (eg kiss her, caress her...etc)

 

[cactus3178]

Couple questions, captain:

1.) How long have you guys been together?

2.) Is she implying that she wants to hear the 'L' word? Has she said that to you?

Really, if the issue is that your not in love with her, you should let her know. Personally, I can't f*cking stand it when peeps who are a whopping 2-3 months in are saying that sh*t.

People don't have respect for that word. Real love is somehting that takes a long time to develop, ya know? People constantly confuse infatuation with love.

Be honest. If you like her, tell her. Like the bro above said, show her through your actions......just don't say anything you don't really feel.

Good luck.

 

[blinkwatt]

Try this is worked for me to shut the lady up. My lady friend asked "what are you thinking" as I layed on top of her and I responded with "actions speak louder then words" and kissed her and made out. Next time she ask "how do you feel about me" respond with "actions speak louder then words" and kiss her like there is no tommorow.

 

[Swagger]

what i do in those situations is to tell her: "Look, i like you. I really do. And I would love to fall in love with you sometime. I'm looking forward to it but it's gonna take it's time"

something like that should do it. in your own words. because you let her know that you do care about her but also, that she needs to keep putting in work to get you to love her.

 

[smeckle]

Thanks for the responses guys. I appreciate it.

To answer cactus's questions...

1) This thrusday, we'll have hit a month.
2) No. Neither of us are in love, so that's what I don't get.

This kid at her school (she's a senior in high school) wrote her a love poem. And that's what brought it up. We started talking about that and she dropped the bomb.

But I've been showing her as much as I can how I feel, and it seems to be working. Thanks guys.

Anything else?