Never under-estimate the power of competition

[TheMonkeyKing]

Two weeks ago, I meet a solid 8/10 21yr old at the bar I causally work at. I serve her her pink gin, we strike up a brief conversation and it seems she's just finhed studying near where I grew up. Long story short, I give her my number, she texts and we arrange to meet last week.

Fast forward. Go for a couple of drinks by the river, date lasts an hour and a half, tops, she's nervous and a bit cold, but overall, not bad conversation. Almost no affection other than kissing on both cheeks to greet and farewell. We part and she says 'I'm sure I'll see you round' I think nothing of it and head back toward home for a few drinks.

Fast forward the following night at work. The girl rocks in to the bar with her mate, decked out in the tightest black mini-dress, black heels; looking more 9/10 at this point. She works in equine rehab and fck, this girl has the body of a fcking racehorse. She proceeds to be fairly aloof though not ignorant, getting a bit drunk and chatting to other guys. Leaves after an hour, not even saying goodbye. Pfft. That's drunk 21 year old women for you.

Fast forward last night. She's there again when I arrive at work at 8pm. Again not overly friendly to start with, though we have a bit of banter about her having driving lessons when hungover, and how it's actually my fault because it's me serving her gin, blablabla. She sits with a friend and another older guy I know (Joe) right in front of the bar...... whatever.

Just so happens that last night, I'm working almost exclusively with a new barmaid (another 8/10), and for a time, we're stuck together alone behind the bar in plain sight, though out of earshot of racehorse body. The game was on at this point. I proceeded to have a great 20minute conversation with the new barmaid, laughing joking etc. All in all, I'm simply proliferating my options all at once as the barmaid is ultra cute, fit and fun. Another seed is sown.


Fast forward half an hour, I'm going about my business, walking through the bar, past the racehorse's table and, boom, Joe calls me over. 'TMK', he says, 'This girl here really likes you. Give her your phone number'. I say she already has it and walk off, while racehorse girl and I give each other come to bed eyes.

Fast forward an hour, she's leaving and I'm outside collecting chairs. She specifically comes over to where I am and stands in front of me, quiet and demure, rolling a cigarette. We have a brief conversation about how I'm too busy to meet her this week (I actually am). She remembers facts about me despite being half-cut. I leave to take a few chairs in, she's still there when I get back. This time, she starts walking towards me as I am her, and she stops and stands in my personal space. I grab her round the waist and when she goes for the kiss, I kiss her on both cheeks. I'm not kissing her for the first time when when she's tipsy and I'm sober. I tell her I'll be in touch. Sometimes the slow-burners turn in to better longer-term prospects.

I finish work and switch my phone on. I have a text saying I looked cute tonight and that we should definitely have another date.

TL;DR

If you want to attract the attention of hot women, appeal to their sense of competition by being seen associating with other hot women.

It's called a game for a reason; and if you're not playing right, you're not going to win.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

great post, love it. meeting women like that with mutual attraction is INSANELY fun and those kind of moments is what makes the game worth it

 

[ohrein]

I consciously make an effort to chat to really attractive women when I'm out with my girlfriend. It works both ways, they see me with my girlfriend who is a babe and it's instant social proof, then my girlfriend sees me making attractive women laugh and have a good time and bam, more social proof. You don't need to be "the life of the party" but you do want to be a guy who effortlessly has fun with attractive women.

Great post.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

great post, love it. meeting women like that with mutual attraction is INSANELY fun and those kind of moments is what makes the game worth it

It's funny, there is a mutual attraction going on. You don't go in to someone's place of work twice in a week, dressed like a p0rnstar, if you're not seeking their attention.

She played her hand, so I played mine. And I won.

 

[wifehunter]

From my expirience, women who are overly concerned about competition, have insecurity issues. Get ready for a 'high maintenance' situation.

 

[Murk]

Chatting to hot girls any chance I get - autopilot

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

From my expirience, women who are overly concerned about competition, have insecurity issues. Get ready for a 'high maintenance' situation.

Respectfully disagree. Mate competition is a universal reproductive phenomenon observed throughout the animal kingdom. It manifests in this kind of way in humans and in different ways in other animals.

Overly insecure individuals will react very differently - they fly off the handle and cause a scene, or at the very least, give you an earful about it. More secure people react the way that this horse lady did; they don't fight the issue, they compete for you.

-Most if not all women have insecurities to some degree; as do most men. Anyone denying it is either a sociopath, or just plain lying.
-I have experienced this competition activity among women I've never met; for example, in a club or walking down the street in the company of a hot woman, you can notice that other women will gravitate toward you or you will at least spike their radar.

 

[wifehunter]

Respectfully disagree. Mate competition is a universal reproductive phenomenon observed throughout the animal kingdom. It manifests in this kind of way in humans and in different ways in other animals.

Overly insecure individuals will react very differently - they fly off the handle and cause a scene, or at the very least, give you an earful about it. More secure people react the way that this horse lady did; they don't fight the issue, they compete for you.

-Most if not all women have insecurities to some degree; as do most men. Anyone denying it is either a sociopath, or just plain lying.
-I have experienced this competition activity among women I've never met; for example, in a club or walking down the street in the company of a hot woman, you can notice that other women will gravitate toward you or you will at least spike their radar.

Especially where i'm at....Most amercans 'in general' are too concerned with competition and/or being competitive...everyone is trying so hard to stand out and get noticed...yes, there is a sociopathic problem here and it manisfests itself on the road. Just driving here, shows you how rude and self-centered people generally are.

If feeling a bit sick now.

 

[IKO69]

Competition fuels desire to grow, change, innovate. It's necessary and we would not have a lot of the things we enjoy now if it weren't for competition...of course you have to stay grounded. It can lead to greed.

I look to get better and each and every day. I look at others and compare myself and see where I lack and what I can do to improve....I don't want to do at the expense of others though so I leave them alone. I don't criticize or get jealous we all have our own journey.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Especially where i'm at....Most amercans 'in general' are too concerned with competition and/or being competitive...everyone is trying so hard to stand out and get noticed...yes, there is a sociopathic problem here and it manisfests itself on the road. Just driving here, shows you how rude and self-centered people generally are.

If feeling a bit sick now.

You are right in a sense. But mate competition is very different to the unhealthy type of competition you refer to, the likes we see driven through social media narcissism. Though I suppose a lot of socialised sheep do blur the lines between the two.

Though I do agree, Americans have taken healthy competition and turned it in to an industry.

 

[wifehunter]

You are right in a sense. But mate competition is very different to the unhealthy type of competition you refer to, the likes we see driven through social media narcissism. Though I suppose a lot of socialised sheep do blur the lines between the two.

Though I do agree, Americans have taken healthy competition and turned it in to an industry.

yes, both overlap and are connected.