"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Never thought I'd hear this from her

Eph

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So, today I was hanging out with a friend, and identical female twins. I guess you could call them my friends as well. I wouldn't really call them plates. Anyway, we were talking, and my friend brought up how a new plate he's seeing is confusing him.

She flaked on their valentine's day date over text because the girl's sister apparently told my friend's plate to come hang out with her for her birthday. She asked him if that was ok, and he said yeah. I told him since they had already set it up, he shouldn't have been cool with it.

According to him, they stopped talking (or texting/facebook messaging I should say) after this. He thinks that's confusing. I think it was a sh!t test.

Then, one of the twins jumps in our conversation by telling him, "nice guys get hurt a lot. And sorry <Eph's friend>, but you're a nice guy." He had no response to this, other than the look on his face.

I never thought I'd hear this from either of the twins because these two - whether you believe it or not - have never dated anyone, have parents that are still married, absolutely never get sexual with anyone, and according to at least one of them have no interest in boyfriends at the moment.

I'm not trying to pedestalize them here, but it was surprising these two -assuming the other twin knows this fact too - consciously knew that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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making nice guys finish last must be genetic to women.
 

VladPatton

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Yeah man. A lot of what is know on SS is very true in the real world. That's why I joined, because it was a bunch of guys giving real world advice from experience.

Once you know about keeping frame and shıt tests, the mystery of women dissolves.
 

Eph

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devilkingx2 said:
making nice guys finish last must be genetic to women.
They don't finish last. They never finish at all.
 

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Valentine's Day is a relationship-type date day. Even if you're not bf/gf it's kind of like a jump to that type of relationship when you go out that night.

If she cancelled that means she really wasn't interested. If she asked me if it was OK to cancel I would agree and then next her. She's obviously not interested.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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