duke007
Master Don Juan
I'm talking about illnesses, fears, personality issues, low self-esteem that kind of thing. Even if it was something in the past and now overcome.
You probably already know this, but it is more important than you think. Even if you think you are close to the girl and she has an understanding personality, revealing a weakness early on is suicide.
This chick and I had a great flirty relationship. I knew that she really liked me, but she was smart enough not to be too obvious about it.
Then I started to get sick. While I didn't lose my DJ mindset, I kinda stopped acting like one. I had no energy to flirt, and became a bit flat and sometimes dull. I couldn't really give a fvck. But due to this "don't give a fvck" attitude she still liked me.
At my most ill I kind of screwed her around by coming late to meetings and being an absolutely useless study partner. I felt the need to, not apologise, but to explain why I hadn't been my usual outgoing self.
At the time I KNEW this would terminate her interest. Still I went through with it because she seemed different to other girls. I only really wanted her as a friend though to be honest....illness makes you apathetic toward women.
She listened with understanding and everything seemed cool. But afterwards, once I was on my way back to full fitness she's gone all cold on me. The first thing she asks me when our paths cross is, "Are you feeling better?" or something along those lines.
It feels like I'm being pitied like a little kid. I've lost all my alpha status, even though I've put on 7kgs of muscle since then. SHe won't laugh with me any more, and twice knocked me back for after-class beers citing some lame excuse.
I owe the b1tch two beers also, and all I really want from her is social proof to be honest.
So overall, I did NOTHING wrong to have her turn so cold except revealing the details of my major weakness, a chronic illness.
I've found through personal experience that guys see strength in controlling and overcoming a sometimes debilitating problem. But chicks only see half a man: "He can't protect me". This recent girl is not the only one who knows....girls from high school are the same.
Notice how your female family members get extra concerned and fuss over you when you have a simple cold? They build problems up to be way bigger than they actually are...it's just the way they're wired. Then the nurturing instinct kicks in, which is pretty much the opposite to attraction. How could a girl still want to fvck you if she feels a need to protect you? It doesn't add up my friends.
So after revealing a weakness, the girl will subconsciously build it up to be worse than it actually is, making you look even weaker and hence less desireable.
So don't ever reveal your problems until you are ready to marry a girl. If she went cold that late in a relationship she's not wife material anyway so you win.
You probably already know this, but it is more important than you think. Even if you think you are close to the girl and she has an understanding personality, revealing a weakness early on is suicide.
This chick and I had a great flirty relationship. I knew that she really liked me, but she was smart enough not to be too obvious about it.
Then I started to get sick. While I didn't lose my DJ mindset, I kinda stopped acting like one. I had no energy to flirt, and became a bit flat and sometimes dull. I couldn't really give a fvck. But due to this "don't give a fvck" attitude she still liked me.
At my most ill I kind of screwed her around by coming late to meetings and being an absolutely useless study partner. I felt the need to, not apologise, but to explain why I hadn't been my usual outgoing self.
At the time I KNEW this would terminate her interest. Still I went through with it because she seemed different to other girls. I only really wanted her as a friend though to be honest....illness makes you apathetic toward women.
She listened with understanding and everything seemed cool. But afterwards, once I was on my way back to full fitness she's gone all cold on me. The first thing she asks me when our paths cross is, "Are you feeling better?" or something along those lines.
It feels like I'm being pitied like a little kid. I've lost all my alpha status, even though I've put on 7kgs of muscle since then. SHe won't laugh with me any more, and twice knocked me back for after-class beers citing some lame excuse.
I owe the b1tch two beers also, and all I really want from her is social proof to be honest.
So overall, I did NOTHING wrong to have her turn so cold except revealing the details of my major weakness, a chronic illness.
I've found through personal experience that guys see strength in controlling and overcoming a sometimes debilitating problem. But chicks only see half a man: "He can't protect me". This recent girl is not the only one who knows....girls from high school are the same.
Notice how your female family members get extra concerned and fuss over you when you have a simple cold? They build problems up to be way bigger than they actually are...it's just the way they're wired. Then the nurturing instinct kicks in, which is pretty much the opposite to attraction. How could a girl still want to fvck you if she feels a need to protect you? It doesn't add up my friends.
So after revealing a weakness, the girl will subconsciously build it up to be worse than it actually is, making you look even weaker and hence less desireable.
So don't ever reveal your problems until you are ready to marry a girl. If she went cold that late in a relationship she's not wife material anyway so you win.
