"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Never married women past 35yrs old - RED FLAG??

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I am curious, as a transplanted American living in United Kingdom (and for most of this pertains to Europe) - I see quite a bit more women who have NEVER BEEN MARRIED around the mid-30's.

Is this a red flag in itself??

Surely there is a double-standard here, as men who have never been married in their mid-30's could be construed by women (and their hamster spinning) as a possible 'Player' or red flag.

Are women NOT MARRIED by their mid-30's carry some serious issues?? :cheer:

With respect,

Exodus
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My older sister (here in the uk) is hitting 30, not even close to being married.

My Older brother aint the marrying type - his GF , mid 30's never married.

My ex - coming up 30 - I wasnt putting a ring on it.(but she's desperate to be married)

But then I have friends wifing up chicks and spitting out kids too.


I dont consider them red flags. But I have a couple lady friends that are mid-30's and never married that I would put as potential red flags because theyre lovely women.....

Not very helpful, i know - just my 2c.
 

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I've analyzed this phenomenon quite a bit and I've come to the conclusion that yes, there is alwys a red flag when it comes to never-married older women. However, a divorcee is an even redder flag.

A little girl LIVES for the day she will get married. All the good, more balanced ones get taken up young. There are almost always significant issues with a women who hasn't found a husband, but I'll take that over a divorcee any day.
 

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A very huge massive red flag, do not pursure.

I will give the limit of 31 or 32 without being married, anything older I wont bother
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Duracell_Bunny

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I strongly disagree with OVER 32 & NOT MARRIED = RED FLAG

It is something I would consider, a divorced lady is defiantly a cause for concern but only if I knew the truth.

I've seen many breakups with the core reason that the man left the women as they were not ready for marriage and kids. I do not understand how the woman would be carrying serious issues.

I think most single older women are awesome and in better shape.

Put aside off topic - If I found out she has children that are still of age to be living at home, I'd be running for the hills.
 

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Divorced women stay bitter pretty much forever. I don't think they actually get over it.

We know women hold grudges indefinitely.

No matter how free and loaded with $$$ she is after a divorce, she will still punish her new man for the "sins" of her ex husband.
 

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I don't really believe in auto red flags; you get to the point where you red flag everyone and it's paralysis by analysis. Not without getting to know a person first. I trust my instincts and gut and think I'm a suburb judge of character. I don't commit to anything with anyone until I know exactly what i'm dealing with .

I could date a divorced woman under the right circumstances. I could date a non married woman under the right circumstances. the biggest cavet I have is dating women who have kids already. I have a son and it's hard enough for me to be a daddy to my own little knucklehead, let alone raising a kid who i can't spank (at least threaten to) who will never see me as his real daddy i'm out on that. but i'd never say NEVER
 

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As far as I can tell at this point, the consensus is nowhere anywhere.

I guess there is no guarantee whether a woman who has never been married in her mid-30's or a divorced one is automatically a redflag.

European women, from my experience - has less of a 'hurry up and marry after you turn 18yrs old' than the typical American experience. Perhaps Americans are thoroughly much more religious and marriage seems to be a big deal in the early 20's.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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