Dgwizdal
Master Don Juan
Never Backslide...
If you do something that breaks rapport on an extreme level, whether it be cheating or yelling the **** out of her, DO NOT back pedal. Instinctively when men do something wrong on this level, we apologize dearly because we’ve been conditioned to believe that it’s the right thing to do. But often times, the right thing to do morally is not the best thing to do for a relationship. Rapport and attraction have an interesting dynamic. When you build attraction, you can break rapport. But you build rapport, you must never break attraction. Remember that women are NOT turned on by men they only have rapport with, the subtext of attraction is a critical element. Without it, all rapport gets funneled through an LJBF filter.
What if at the times you failed or pissed off any of your exes you were been seeing other girls at the same time? What if you were fighting *****es off with a stick at the time? All hotter. All kinder. All more generous and less needy than your girlfriend? How would you react to her tests? Would you feel guilty or like I’m taking advantage for accepting anything from this one girl? Wouldn’t everything you HAVE done been rapport enough?”
I realized it was this very sort of thinking that I HAD with girls regardless of my status. My focus on my life’s purpose however was my “other girl”. It’s only when I actually did show caring in response to their anger
at me that things got ****ed up.
A girl does NOT know you aren’t seeing other girls. SHE does NOT know your history. She DOES NOT know no matter what you do or how you act that you are not higher value. There’s always doubt.
While that’s all clear and to an extent obvious, when a guy naturally assumes the only thing keeper her to you is your value… he get’s out and stays out of the specifics of his narrative… he’s free to see the subjectivity of it all. That his response (I.e. confidence) is the single most important indicator to her. Her feelings conform to yours eventually. You are the one leading the relationship.
Dogs don’t understand sympathy towards them. Likewise a strong sense of empathy can KILL your chances. You think you’re showing humanity and equanimity to your girl with an apology or revealing that you do in fact have a conscience. She does NOT interpret it that way.
The concepts of framing, irrational self confidence, making your mission your priority… they all make the most sense only from this Alpha perspective. It’s not that each man doesn’t naturally want these things or even on many levels already believe they’re correct ways of thinking. It’s accepting that females are truly incapable of knowing themselves. That they are NOT men. Their thinking is based in social fluidity.
*GUYS. When you screw up (and you will). You MUST REMEMBER your societally programmed/expected responses and EVEN your very sense of empathy or right and wrong is malleable. Think like you have options. Imagine you’ve been passing them up to be with this girl. Imagine everything you have with this girl, there are already other girls who do more. How do you feel now? What do you think now? Are you selfish? Have you been taking her for granted? Treating her poorly? Didn’t care enough? Played games? No. You’re a man who finally screwed up while trying to put pearls in a pigs ear. A man who has a run of better girls, but chose her.* All this is exactly what she’s afraid of. She wants to know for sure. All the **** that’s inside her. The things she’s done. What she’s thought. Is she good enough? “Can this guy handle ALL of me?”
Don’t break. She needs you not to break. Own your ****.
If you do something that breaks rapport on an extreme level, whether it be cheating or yelling the **** out of her, DO NOT back pedal. Instinctively when men do something wrong on this level, we apologize dearly because we’ve been conditioned to believe that it’s the right thing to do. But often times, the right thing to do morally is not the best thing to do for a relationship. Rapport and attraction have an interesting dynamic. When you build attraction, you can break rapport. But you build rapport, you must never break attraction. Remember that women are NOT turned on by men they only have rapport with, the subtext of attraction is a critical element. Without it, all rapport gets funneled through an LJBF filter.
What if at the times you failed or pissed off any of your exes you were been seeing other girls at the same time? What if you were fighting *****es off with a stick at the time? All hotter. All kinder. All more generous and less needy than your girlfriend? How would you react to her tests? Would you feel guilty or like I’m taking advantage for accepting anything from this one girl? Wouldn’t everything you HAVE done been rapport enough?”
I realized it was this very sort of thinking that I HAD with girls regardless of my status. My focus on my life’s purpose however was my “other girl”. It’s only when I actually did show caring in response to their anger
at me that things got ****ed up.
A girl does NOT know you aren’t seeing other girls. SHE does NOT know your history. She DOES NOT know no matter what you do or how you act that you are not higher value. There’s always doubt.
While that’s all clear and to an extent obvious, when a guy naturally assumes the only thing keeper her to you is your value… he get’s out and stays out of the specifics of his narrative… he’s free to see the subjectivity of it all. That his response (I.e. confidence) is the single most important indicator to her. Her feelings conform to yours eventually. You are the one leading the relationship.
Dogs don’t understand sympathy towards them. Likewise a strong sense of empathy can KILL your chances. You think you’re showing humanity and equanimity to your girl with an apology or revealing that you do in fact have a conscience. She does NOT interpret it that way.
The concepts of framing, irrational self confidence, making your mission your priority… they all make the most sense only from this Alpha perspective. It’s not that each man doesn’t naturally want these things or even on many levels already believe they’re correct ways of thinking. It’s accepting that females are truly incapable of knowing themselves. That they are NOT men. Their thinking is based in social fluidity.
*GUYS. When you screw up (and you will). You MUST REMEMBER your societally programmed/expected responses and EVEN your very sense of empathy or right and wrong is malleable. Think like you have options. Imagine you’ve been passing them up to be with this girl. Imagine everything you have with this girl, there are already other girls who do more. How do you feel now? What do you think now? Are you selfish? Have you been taking her for granted? Treating her poorly? Didn’t care enough? Played games? No. You’re a man who finally screwed up while trying to put pearls in a pigs ear. A man who has a run of better girls, but chose her.* All this is exactly what she’s afraid of. She wants to know for sure. All the **** that’s inside her. The things she’s done. What she’s thought. Is she good enough? “Can this guy handle ALL of me?”
Don’t break. She needs you not to break. Own your ****.
