"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Never ignore your gut feeling

MetalFortress

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If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.

For example, you're in an LTR and your gut feeling is that something just ain't right about her. You're going to want to push it to the side and ignore it because everything seems so right. I will tell you now: DON'T DO IT. Listen to your gut, even if you don't know the reason for it. I ignored it many times throughout mine, and it took me until 7 months after breaking up to realize that the gut feelings I was getting (which had to do with her not being totally honest about something) were true. Turns out she was basically a pathological liar. Still is, too, and it's getting even worse according to a mutual friend.

Second relationship... gut feeling told me I was settling, and I shouldn't be going out with her. I ignored it. Big mistake. Relationship lasted only 1 1/2 months, with me not being happy in the relationship. Stupid idea.

I can think of many more times where my gut feeling was right, and I found that out anywhere from a day to a year later, but the point is, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It doesn't lie, even if it seems to know something your head does not.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.

For example, you're in an LTR and your gut feeling is that something just ain't right about her. You're going to want to push it to the side and ignore it because everything seems so right. I will tell you now: DON'T DO IT. Listen to your gut, even if you don't know the reason for it. I ignored it many times throughout mine, and it took me until 7 months after breaking up to realize that the gut feelings I was getting (which had to do with her not being totally honest about something) were true. Turns out she was basically a pathological liar. Still is, too, and it's getting even worse according to a mutual friend.

Second relationship... gut feeling told me I was settling, and I shouldn't be going out with her. I ignored it. Big mistake. Relationship lasted only 1 1/2 months, with me not being happy in the relationship. Stupid idea.

I can think of many more times where my gut feeling was right, and I found that out anywhere from a day to a year later, but the point is, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It doesn't lie, even if it seems to know something your head does not.
This is why the came up with the phrase "don't hit the steering wheel."
 

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I always follow my gut, as it is always right. The few times that I've ignored my feelings, it always came back to bite me in the ass. One must learn detachment in order to do this, however... kinda like what Obi-Wan Kenobi said to Luke Skywalker, "Don't trust your eyes, they can deceive you... close your eyes and act on instinct!"

Sometimes the hardest things to see are right in front of our faces, and the reason why we can't see them is because we're looking too damn hard. Everything becomes a routine of a routine. Just learn to let go, and let the chips fall where they may. Things seem to workout best that way.

Go with the flow my friends...


Laterz,
 

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Originally posted by Spike_the_Dragon
One must learn detachment in order to do this, however... kinda like what Obi-Wan Kenobi said to Luke Skywalker, "Don't trust your eyes, they can deceive you... close your eyes and act on instinct!"

*Nerd alert* *Nerd alert*:woo: :eek:


im just kidding.


I agree with the gut feeling, its usually what is really in your best interest.
 

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.
No truer word have been spoken! A lot of times I think guy's are afraid to go with their gut feeling because they may be wrong. I find that most of the time our gut feeling is correct. Hell, I'd rather be wrong than get screwed over. Go with the gut feeling. ;)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Hey, the new 'star wars' movie is comming out soon... it's fresh on my mind.:cool:


Jar Jar Binks is going down, Vader style!
 

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.
I shuddered because of how true this is.
 
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