"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Never ignore your gut feeling

MetalFortress

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If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.

For example, you're in an LTR and your gut feeling is that something just ain't right about her. You're going to want to push it to the side and ignore it because everything seems so right. I will tell you now: DON'T DO IT. Listen to your gut, even if you don't know the reason for it. I ignored it many times throughout mine, and it took me until 7 months after breaking up to realize that the gut feelings I was getting (which had to do with her not being totally honest about something) were true. Turns out she was basically a pathological liar. Still is, too, and it's getting even worse according to a mutual friend.

Second relationship... gut feeling told me I was settling, and I shouldn't be going out with her. I ignored it. Big mistake. Relationship lasted only 1 1/2 months, with me not being happy in the relationship. Stupid idea.

I can think of many more times where my gut feeling was right, and I found that out anywhere from a day to a year later, but the point is, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It doesn't lie, even if it seems to know something your head does not.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.

For example, you're in an LTR and your gut feeling is that something just ain't right about her. You're going to want to push it to the side and ignore it because everything seems so right. I will tell you now: DON'T DO IT. Listen to your gut, even if you don't know the reason for it. I ignored it many times throughout mine, and it took me until 7 months after breaking up to realize that the gut feelings I was getting (which had to do with her not being totally honest about something) were true. Turns out she was basically a pathological liar. Still is, too, and it's getting even worse according to a mutual friend.

Second relationship... gut feeling told me I was settling, and I shouldn't be going out with her. I ignored it. Big mistake. Relationship lasted only 1 1/2 months, with me not being happy in the relationship. Stupid idea.

I can think of many more times where my gut feeling was right, and I found that out anywhere from a day to a year later, but the point is, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. It doesn't lie, even if it seems to know something your head does not.
This is why the came up with the phrase "don't hit the steering wheel."
 

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I always follow my gut, as it is always right. The few times that I've ignored my feelings, it always came back to bite me in the ass. One must learn detachment in order to do this, however... kinda like what Obi-Wan Kenobi said to Luke Skywalker, "Don't trust your eyes, they can deceive you... close your eyes and act on instinct!"

Sometimes the hardest things to see are right in front of our faces, and the reason why we can't see them is because we're looking too damn hard. Everything becomes a routine of a routine. Just learn to let go, and let the chips fall where they may. Things seem to workout best that way.

Go with the flow my friends...


Laterz,
 

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Originally posted by Spike_the_Dragon
One must learn detachment in order to do this, however... kinda like what Obi-Wan Kenobi said to Luke Skywalker, "Don't trust your eyes, they can deceive you... close your eyes and act on instinct!"

*Nerd alert* *Nerd alert*:woo: :eek:


im just kidding.


I agree with the gut feeling, its usually what is really in your best interest.
 

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.
No truer word have been spoken! A lot of times I think guy's are afraid to go with their gut feeling because they may be wrong. I find that most of the time our gut feeling is correct. Hell, I'd rather be wrong than get screwed over. Go with the gut feeling. ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey, the new 'star wars' movie is comming out soon... it's fresh on my mind.:cool:


Jar Jar Binks is going down, Vader style!
 

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Originally posted by MetalFortress
If you do, it will bite you in the ass. Maybe tomorrow, or maybe six months from now. But it will.
I shuddered because of how true this is.
 
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