"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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never gotten farther than a makeout

thenewreign

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I've been talking to a girl recently and I can tell she's really into me, we've been texting for a few days now and I've organized for us to hang out this weekend. I want to get to know her better to see whether I'd be interested in further pursuing her, but as of now things seem solid. I can tell she's a horny person and shes had a boyfriend for a quite a while until a few months ago so they've probably done stuff.

She's attractive and I plan on getting sexual with her but I have no experience past a makeout and feeling eachother up. I'm not ashamed of the fact considering that I've had the opportunity before but never went through with it because I either had no interest in the girl at the time or lost interest before it got to that point. I've also never had the confidence to pursue girls that I've been interested in before. If I escalate with her she is definitely going to ask how far I've gotten and when I tell her, she will surely ask why. Saying that I've had the opportunity but never pursued because of loss in interest will maybe seem a bit egotistical considering I've never got any and it might make her think that I'll lose interest in her. On the other hand, ignoring her question and telling her that only what happens between us matters will make it seem like I'm ashamed of the fact. How should I word the question?

I'm 17 and I feel like most girls would find it a turn off that I haven't gone farther than a makeout. Last time I made out was a while ago so I'm probably sh*t at it and she may or may not be able to tell. What are your guys thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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eastcoast15

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thenewreign said:
I've been talking to a girl recently and I can tell she's really into me, we've been texting for a few days now and I've organized for us to hang out this weekend. I want to get to know her better to see whether I'd be interested in further pursuing her, but as of now things seem solid. I can tell she's a horny person and shes had a boyfriend for a quite a while until a few months ago so they've probably done stuff.

She's attractive and I plan on getting sexual with her but I have no experience past a makeout and feeling eachother up. I'm not ashamed of the fact considering that I've had the opportunity before but never went through with it because I either had no interest in the girl at the time or lost interest before it got to that point. I've also never had the confidence to pursue girls that I've been interested in before. If I escalate with her she is definitely going to ask how far I've gotten and when I tell her, she will surely ask why. Saying that I've had the opportunity but never pursued because of loss in interest will maybe seem a bit egotistical considering I've never got any and it might make her think that I'll lose interest in her. On the other hand, ignoring her question and telling her that only what happens between us matters will make it seem like I'm ashamed of the fact. How should I word the question?

I'm 17 and I feel like most girls would find it a turn off that I haven't gone farther than a makeout. Last time I made out was a while ago so I'm probably sh*t at it and she may or may not be able to tell. What are your guys thoughts?
You'll be fine dude. I'm not sure why she's definitely going to ask you about that? Why would she?

And don't worry about the makeout... You're already setting yourself up for failure thinking I'm probably **** at it. It's not hard. Don't overthink this too much. Any thoughts you're gonna have at this point are only hurting you.
 

thenewreign

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Some girls I've talked to have asked about it before and I feel like my response may have been kind of off putting at the time. I'm not really ashamed, I just don't want it to come off wrong. I'm not worried about the makeout, I'm just being honest with myself considering it hasn't happened in a while. Doesn't mean I'm not just going to go for it and keep doing what I'm doing; I could care less, if I do manage to embarrass myself then atleast it'll just be a learning experience. Not that I will ;)
 

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you are new and possible the girl are also on your age bracket if not younger, making out is already a pretty good, if you really feel like more you can just start small like feeling her a little more lower then normal and feel if she let you
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheMusic

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Seriously. I've never had a girl ask in the heat of the moment "hold on. What are your experiences?". Just keep making out, and she won't have time to talk ;)
 
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