Never getting mad.

[Fatal Jay]

When girls are doing things purposely to get on your nerves, is never showing anger the best way? When sh1t test come on the regular, is not showing any type of anger make you win in the end?

I figure that would blow the girl mind, you never showing anger in all situations even when the girl is on the rag.

 

[FairShake]

Never showing anger is not healthy. You will internalize it and it will run you down.

That said, never or rarely showing anger is good for both women and your job. But don't fvcking do it.

 

[tryst type]

Something I read a while ago that has stuck is:

"Look at anything she does/says as being "cute""

Helps you control your emotions and reframe her actions. Of course if something does bother you enough that you feel is disrespectful to your core beliefs/values make sure she knows it will not be tolerated.

That doesn't necessarily mean getting angry, a simple withdraw of your attention ie leaving and not contacting her is enough to send the right message.

 

[Fatal Jay]

@fairshake I was thinking myself that it could be very mentally and physically draining suppressing your anger.

@tryst type I agree with what you said also.

 

[expos]

Women thrive on emotion and drama.

I would never get mad at my ex wife, and she accused me of being "robotic" at times, because I would just stand there with my arms crossed and stare at her until she was done flipping out.

My advice, in any LTR, is to fight it out but stay true to your values, opinions, and never or be passive.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Never engage in any type of behavior JUST to keep a woman.

If you do something, do it for YOURSELF, not to keep a woman's interest level high. If a woman doesn't like the REAL you, just f*ck her and move on.

 

[Aristippus]

I'd say the problem isn't anger. It's what you do about it. Sometimes women do things that are disrespectful or they misbehave. If she does something that gets you angry, then get d@mned p!ssed about it and let her KNOW she was wrong and that you're p!ssed.

A woman needs to know that she can't get away with unacceptable behavior. As long as you channel your anger constructively you're fine. Sometimes tempering anger with calmness, what I like to call calm anger, is the way to go. Other times she needs to be scolded like a child for being unfair and unreasonable. DO NOT try to reason with a woman if she's in a state of temporary insanity where she refuses to listen to reason. Scold her like a child and end the conversation. Then when her brain is working halfway normally again (once her emotions have calmed down), you can use reason then, but NEVER back down.

If she tries to enter into the silly realm of making unreasonable demands, expecting you to jump through stupid hoops and choses to ignore reason, she can forget it. You make the rules. Not her. If she expects you to be her lover and protector, she has to play by your rules. If she doesn't want to play by your rules, then you're better off either being alone in peace or replacing her with someone who WILL get with the program and play by your rules.

 

[plate's_empty]

I'd say the problem isn't anger. It's what you do about it. Sometimes women do things that are disrespectful or they misbehave. If she does something that gets you angry, then get d@mned p!ssed about it and let her KNOW she was wrong and that you're p!ssed.

A woman needs to know that she can't get away with unacceptable behavior. As long as you channel your anger constructively you're fine. Sometimes tempering anger with calmness, what I like to call calm anger, is the way to go. Other times she needs to be scolded like a child for being unfair and unreasonable. DO NOT try to reason with a woman if she's in a state of temporary insanity where she refuses to listen to reason. Scold her like a child and end the conversation. Then when her brain is working halfway normally again (once her emotions have calmed down), you can use reason then, but NEVER back down.

If she tries to enter into the silly realm of making unreasonable demands, expecting you to jump through stupid hoops and choses to ignore reason, she can forget it. You make the rules. Not her. If she expects you to be her lover and protector, she has to play by your rules. If she doesn't want to play by your rules, then you're better off either being alone in peace or replacing her with someone who WILL get with the program and play by your rules.

^^^Solid.

I've wondered the same thing OP. My ex was as BPD as they come. She'd pull stupid sh1t all the time, the BS that would come out of her mouth was legendary. I'd try to be rational and logical and talk to her about it, you know, explain that I didn't like it. That, of course, never works. She'd go silent on me. Her one explanation was that she needed someone who understands her. So, I'd rationalize it in my mind, say to myself I'm not going to get mad, so I'd let it go (because I didn't want to lose her). So I'd come back and act as everything was cool (pretending that it didn't bother me, show no emotion right?). Her response would be: "what, do you have multiple personalities or something?"

Classic.

 

[expos]

^^^Solid.

I've wondered the same thing OP. My ex was as BPD as they come. She'd pull stupid sh1t all the time, the BS that would come out of her mouth was legendary. I'd try to be rational and logical and talk to her about it, you know, explain that I didn't like it. That, of course, never works. She'd go silent on me. Her one explanation was that she needed someone who understands her. So, I'd rationalize it in my mind, say to myself I'm not going to get mad, so I'd let it go (because I didn't want to lose her). So I'd come back and act as everything was cool (pretending that it didn't bother me, show no emotion right?). Her response would be: "what, do you have multiple personalities or something?"

Classic.

Well, with BPD, you weren't going to win anyways. The thing with BPD's is that they are selfish to the core...they don't really care about "relationships" as much as they like the label of a "in a relationship."

With BPD:

1 - Too calm of an approach and it angers them that you are "too cool" or not caring of their issue

2 - Too aggressive and it means that you hate them or a you are a jerk.

Remember, with BPD, it's always black and white thinking. They can't see the gray area.

 

[Jitterbug]

Actual anger - no. However, a controlled performance sometimes does the trick beautifully. It's a serious turn-on for them, for male anger is a social taboo, and to them it's both terrifying and tingly. Crazy or not, they all crave drama, and we need to provide it from time to time. Just like how they're supposed to dress up in sexy roleplaying costumes for us every now and then to keep it fresh.

 

[Big Nuts]

Put.Her.In.Her.Place.

Sounds counter-intuitive in today's world of manginas. But, again...women are a paradox. Subtly tell her to STFU and she will drop the gear and get on all fours.