Dingo
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I'm not going to be them...
You can never be totally ready for when relationships end but you can and should be somewhat emotionally prepared. Not prepared to fail or paranoia but things happens that end relationships... So be ready, don't ever be too complacent in any relationship. In the last few years I have seen and experienced some things that woke me up to never being too comfortable in a relationship.
My cousin went through a divorce five years ago and to this day he has not recovered... Good hard working family man but still out of the blue the wife traded up and left him... Five years and he still is a physical and emotional wreck......... Totally crushed.... I'm not going to be him.
A friends wife gets breast cancer.... Sweet woman so unfair. Metastasized into the bones and six months later she is dead. Months later my friend is totally destroyed... suicidal. She was his everything........ Totally crushed....I'm not going to be him.
My own life.... Married for many years with the normal ups and downs... But a lot of downs in the last few. When the Great Recession hit I lost my job and had a hard time finding another one... Things where stressful and money was tight. One day the wife tells me she is not happy in the marriage, no longer loves me or finds me attractive, etc, etc.... That was my wake up call.... Economy turns around and I start making good money and all of the sudden as long as the cash it's rolling in I'm OK......My view of her has changed... Definitely estranged....Divorce could be in the cards.
I've had a mistress for over two years... she gives me everything the wife doesn't... I value her love and tenderness above all. We are very happy but we know that things cannot continue indefinitely... Even if I did divorce there are no guarantees I would remarry. She understands and I understand that she has to move on. I love her but might cut her loose....
Since I have seen relatives, friends and my own experiences I have been emotionally preparing for the end of relationship pain I see coming in my own life. SS has helped me realize that you don't always succeed, that pain is temporary.... and that in time you will be just fine. I'll may never be totally prepared but I swear that I won't be destroyed like my relatives and friends have been.
I'm not going to be totally crushed.... I'm not going to be them.
You can never be totally ready for when relationships end but you can and should be somewhat emotionally prepared. Not prepared to fail or paranoia but things happens that end relationships... So be ready, don't ever be too complacent in any relationship. In the last few years I have seen and experienced some things that woke me up to never being too comfortable in a relationship.
My cousin went through a divorce five years ago and to this day he has not recovered... Good hard working family man but still out of the blue the wife traded up and left him... Five years and he still is a physical and emotional wreck......... Totally crushed.... I'm not going to be him.
A friends wife gets breast cancer.... Sweet woman so unfair. Metastasized into the bones and six months later she is dead. Months later my friend is totally destroyed... suicidal. She was his everything........ Totally crushed....I'm not going to be him.
My own life.... Married for many years with the normal ups and downs... But a lot of downs in the last few. When the Great Recession hit I lost my job and had a hard time finding another one... Things where stressful and money was tight. One day the wife tells me she is not happy in the marriage, no longer loves me or finds me attractive, etc, etc.... That was my wake up call.... Economy turns around and I start making good money and all of the sudden as long as the cash it's rolling in I'm OK......My view of her has changed... Definitely estranged....Divorce could be in the cards.
I've had a mistress for over two years... she gives me everything the wife doesn't... I value her love and tenderness above all. We are very happy but we know that things cannot continue indefinitely... Even if I did divorce there are no guarantees I would remarry. She understands and I understand that she has to move on. I love her but might cut her loose....
Since I have seen relatives, friends and my own experiences I have been emotionally preparing for the end of relationship pain I see coming in my own life. SS has helped me realize that you don't always succeed, that pain is temporary.... and that in time you will be just fine. I'll may never be totally prepared but I swear that I won't be destroyed like my relatives and friends have been.
I'm not going to be totally crushed.... I'm not going to be them.
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