Never ever EVER EVER settle for having JUST ONE girlfriend

[positivity_injection]

Edit: ****in nerds, u cant be helped

 

[DonGorgon]

there is ZERO benefit in having JUST A "girlfriend" when you are young..........why do i get the feeling that lost of guys post here about having a girlfriend, and i sense that they arent fcuking other women while with the girlfriend??

I agree with al you said but I want to explain to you why many men en up with 1 girlfriend.. In many cases it is much harder for a man to get a women than it is for a woman to get a man so many men feel that they are lucky to have gotten a woman at all and spend plenty of energy trying to keep her by keeping her happy so she will provide him the PU$$Y he wants and needs consistently.....

Many men prefer to have a girl to come home to that to have t hit the bars every night for a new one and best believe if most men could easily go get a new women every night they would... MOst men dont fall into that top 10% of men that 90% of women want. So the dating game tends to be a loosing one for them...

Oh and many men are afraid to cheat on their girls cause they dont want to loose her and end up alone and desperate...

 

[Interceptor]

Actually, just learn how to respect yourself, use your Personal Boundary, and maintain your Integrity and you'll do fine.


It is perfectly fine and natural to have one GF.
EDIT: Only if you KNOW WHO you are, and WHAT YOU WANT, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF and YOUR WANTS and NEEDS, and are PREPARED to Handle the Circumstances intelligently, rationally, and maturely.

If you NEED some 'rule' to 'keep you in line' then THAT is Being AFC because YOU DONT TRUST YOURSELF OR YOUR JUDGEMENT.


Think about that , young men.

If you have no confidence or faith or trust in yourself, then please, by all means never EVER have a meaningful monogamous relationship...because we both know you'll just fvck it up and then pull some dumb AFC sh*t and BLAME it on the WOMAN!




Good luck, men.

EDIT (reached my 10 post count) : Actually, for the record, I DO agree that Immature Men who DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT SHOULD NOT STAY WITH and EXCLUSIVE MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP UNTIL They KNOW WHAT THEY WANT and HOW TO DEAL WITH a Mature Intimate relationships, and be Responsible and Accountable for their actions.
So...
within the CONTEXT of what I meant, I still stand by what I wrote.
You're right, I do know what I want.
And I understand that I am in the minority here too.
I ask that men learn WHO they are, WHAT they want, and STICK to their MISSION.
But it takes maturity, self knowledge, intellect, desire, motivation, patience, and the necessary experience with what YOU DONT WANT.

Good luck, bros.
And damn, those Twinkies are delish!!!!
But I'll hold off on 'chicks'. Give me mature hot blooded grown Women...no "chicks" for me!!

 

[DonGorgon]

I actually ENCOURAGE the girls I'm with play elsewhere once in a while, most especially the bi-sexual ones. I value my alone time very much.

I do that too and it works very very well..

 

[positivity_injection]

It is perfectly fine and natural to have one GF.

only this part of your quote matters to me, and let me tell you why this advice is right and wrong at the same time

it is perfectly fine for someone who is seasoned when it comes to experience with women to have ONE gf - aka a guy who has learned through trial and error what kind of women fits him best

it is however blatantly WRONG to have just one gf for some guy who is not seasoned and doesnt fully know what he wants from a life partner

think about it for a sec.......people go exclusive so that they can end up married and hooked together for life..........and you just CANT go around doing that and taking girls seriously at a young age with limited experience

so Interceptor, im sure that you are mature enough to know what you want from a life partner, but 99% of guys that post here who have a gf SHOULD NOT HAVE JUST THAT ONE GF - that is where the problem lies

 

[The Deacon]

I see what you're saying. To me, though, exclusive dating and bf/gf relationships are synonymous. There's nothing wrong with dating more than one person at the same time, but I don't call anyone my girlfriend until I am sure I don't want to date anyone but them. The reason? I do want to have a stable marriage someday. If you say that's AFC, go fvck yourself.

If there's no "exclusive dating" going on, though, the sky's the limit. Technically speaking.

 

[ChrizZ]

good advice.

 

[Connect4]

Do you even hear yourself talking? "Never EVER EVER EVER settle for having JUST ONE girlfriend."

What kind of advice is this?? Omg... no offense but seriously, get a life dude.

And will you PLEASE get over this word 'AFC'... geez
It's AFC to do this...It's AFC to do that.. .seriously it's not an ALL or Nothing world so stop using 'AFC' as a standard to an end.

JUST BE A MAN.. that's all there is to it.

 

[Sexual]

I actually ENCOURAGE the girls I'm with play elsewhere once in a while, most especially the bi-sexual ones. I value my alone time very much.

This are genuine questions and remarks, they may come off sarcastic but I'm just bringing up more to think about. If you actually do this, do you wear a condom EVERY time? Sucks. Maybe this makes me a non Don Juan to you (like I care), but the multi-monogamous thing doesn't seem like good advice to me in my apparently inexperienced eyes. This whole keeping women around and having, whatever you call them considering the girlfriend is explained by you to be a feminist term, isn't something I see as realistic... you're saying you feel no remorse for keeping the same women around and lying to some about the others first and then you encourage them to go out and play. I can honestly see why you do this because it will likely rule out ALL your negative emotion in your relationships, but why not just keep the one night stands if your emotion and values are out the window? I mean, are you that fearless and polygamous? It seems to me like you're actually putting trust in the women to not go out and sleep with a retired porn star and get syphilis added with a meth addiction. You're like a Roman.

You don't have to freak out in your computer chair because I disagree somewhat. Level with me and explain more please. I also realize I addressed like 2 people as the same person. My bad.

 

[Faded Image]

 

[Sexual]

Interceptor you're old. Put down the twinkies and go find a chick. I would just love another "negative reputation" addition please.

 

[ItsOnNow]

Good post,and has me got me thinking. I,as you know,have little experience,and haven't put in much effort to change that. Maybe I am too comfortable. Personally,I don't like the idea of seeing multiple people at once. I find it to be risky. I do believe in finding the one. Yeah,say what you want,but that's what I know I want. I ideally want a wife and kids and all that jazz. But I worry that it won't happen. I am like concerened about my own survival as a result of this.

 

[Tekniq]

I actually ENCOURAGE the girls I'm with play elsewhere once in a while, most especially the bi-sexual ones. I value my alone time very much.

I'm also a strong believer in just letting the girls roam free some times, and have time for myself. Think of the girls as cattle, the best and most premium USDA grade A beef comes from cows who roam free and get the most exercise, hence becoming the leanest and most expensive pieces of meat.

 

[ItsOnNow]

I do not want to be a doormat

I don't want to be used

I don't want to be controlled by someone.

I don't want to raise someone else's kid's.

I have a pretty good idea of what to avoid.

I just want to have a normal life. Get married,and have kids.

I have little experience in general. I feel like I am so far behind in certain areas,it would take quite some time to build it all up. I don't know what I want,to be able to sleep with x amount of chicks just to get out of my system,or just have that one special girl there for you. Well,I really haven't had much of either.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I've been through my single stage where I had one night stands. I had my stage when I just had fvck buddys. Then, after awhile I wanted a steady girlfriend. I don't see what is wrong with having one girlfriend.

If you find one who meets your needs and does sh!t that you like. Why not have one girlfriend? If you get tired of her you can always dump her and fvck something new.

But, you say down the road. You will end up crushed and heart broken when she leaves. Yes, that can happen. Which, is why you should not be too emotionally invested in her to the point you can't walk away. Remember posts on protecting your heart? Thats what you need to do when you are exclusive with one girl.

I have even cheated on my girlfriends. But, looking back its like.. Yeah the b!tch was good looking and everything. But, they werent relationship material. They couldn't fill the needs my girlfriend could. Which, is what its about; find a girl that fills your needs.

If I get dumped by a b!tch. I just say "hey it was a good run and I had fun." Then, I'm back on my feet doing my thing. Meeting other women.

Your post arent really giving advice. You are basicly telling everyone what they should do.

 

[ItsOnNow]

My problem is making it happen though. Gf,ons,f-buddy,none of that,and yet there are guys out there who breeze through all that. Could it be some sort of pent up energy that I just need to get out? I don't want to be this sorry,but sleezy guy who tricks girls and sleeps around and stuff,I just don't think that's me. I guess on a plus side,I don't have to deal with b.s and heartbreak,but no sex sucks.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

My problem is making it happen though. Gf,ons,f-buddy,none of that,and yet there are guys out there who breeze through all that. Could it be some sort of pent up energy that I just need to get out? I don't want to be this sorry,but sleezy guy who tricks girls and sleeps around and stuff,I just don't think that's me. I guess on a plus side,I don't have to deal with b.s and heartbreak,but no sex sucks.

You don't have to use tricks to sleep with a girl. You just gotta be your best self and LEARN all this don juan sh!t. Only thing your really doing is stealing a b!tches mind; if that...

You ain't gonna be some sleezy guy trickn women into bed. You just gotta know what attracts women and do it naturally.

 

[ItsOnNow]

That;s it,I don't know what/how to attract. It's like I have even yet to figure out what can and does work for me. Maybe I should just go to random bars and see what happens. I mean,what's being your best self? succesful? positive personality/attitude? Confidence?

 

[Kev07]

Life is too short to not experience the illusion of love

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

I don't agree with this post.

ok, so you are getting some experience, seeing some girls, lets say you are a 21 year old guy with limited experience.........why would u ever have a relationship with just ONE girl? WHY? whats the point? where is being exclusive going to get you?? WHERE? ill tell you where, its going to get yo to be super depressed and crying when that girl and you break up down the line

HOW DO WE PREVENT THIS???

I don't want to spend my life running away from things that could potentially cause me pain. I could never limit myself like that.

I'm a little more experienced than the typical poster here and yeah I have been relationships where I ended up broken and hurt. But I'm not afraid of that anymore. If I could go back, I wouldn't change a thing.

Any relationship I get into now, I know the score and I take responsibility for that. My experiences have matured me and I can enjoy being in the moment with a woman and appreciate the memories no matter how the relationship should end.

To any new guys reading this, be careful when you come across posters preaching what you should and shouldn't do. SoSuave dogma can be just as damaging as the "matrix".