"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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NEVER end it with a girl you think isn't into you

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So there was this girl that I dated 3 weeks ago, who I dont think we hit it off at all and I thought she probably wasn't into me. Further, I was going on more dates and almost felt compelled to tell her something to the extent of, "I didn't really feel that you were interested in me so im gonna be dating other women." I didn't do that. I just stopped texting her and calling her. Then, she started texted me and then we eventually started talking on the phone. Long story short I got back from my Coffee/Mall date with her and ended up making out with her in the car before dropping her off.

Whenever you have a girl you don't feel is into you, you can move on but never end it completely. If you always leave the door open to her while you date other girls there is a good chance that it might work where she might want another date with you. It's not guaranteed that she'll still be interesting, but you might be fvcking suprised is all i have to say.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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good advice, even when I think a girl isnt going to go out with me right away or something, I make sure to call her once in a while on the weekends or somthing.

you never know when you meet a girl if she is in the middle of breaking up with someone, or just met someone, and she might not seem interested right then because she is pre-occupied, but down the road, conditions may be better for you.

I cosign this thread :up:
 

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Yep, there's been alot of chicks that I didn't think were interested but I just made a move and was suprised at the result. I think some women don't know how to show interest sometimes, or they can be really shy.
 
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Well, depends on a few things....such as if she's juggling other guys or going out with other guys while you are dating her and she falls for some jerk who gives her STD's, a child or whatever and dumps her, do you really want to be second-choice and left to pick up the baggage like some succer and be grateful that you have her now like some pathetic AFC succer? I think it's a good idea to end it when when she isn't into you as it just saves an inevitable heart-break later on.

I'd like the OP to answer if he would be into picking up the leftovers from some other guy she choose over you if he'd still be ok with being next in line and how much self-respect would you have to settle for leftovers?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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he's not saying to keep asking her out and hope something changes for her so she'll say yes.

he's saying, at least throw the girl a text or an email or a call once a week or every other week, just to let her know you're still alive. so if things do change, or she changes her mind, she won't feel ackward hitting you up after a month or two.

it's not a definite, but there really is no benefit to NOT keeping in touch, it's easy to throw a text on a friday night to see where a few girls are, can't hurt!
 

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thats what you supose to do, keep them on a leash,
present some value in yourself infront of her so she sees your are SOMETHING worthy then back off and let her come to you make it a lil harder for her rather being there all the time calling texting her. cuz girls want what they cannot have. its a simple human characterizes.

it also shows you have better things to do than to chase a girl who just wants you to chase her all the time :p
 

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Here,here!! Man Law!!!
 

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The problem is that sometimes, if you have one-itis, it's important to end things definitively for closure when the girl clearly has NO interest level. Closure is important to moving on because it prevents you from holding on to shreds of false hope.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I ended it with a chick that was getting really clingy, and she was really in to me. But i left the door just a crack open, and now i bang her at least once a week because her new man cant do the job like i do. Booty calls are way better than relationships. I get what I want, and i dont have to buy her shlt, and she leaves right when were done. One time I was drinking while fuking. I literally had beer on my nightstand, and was holding a beer while going to town. It was hilarious.
 

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DJorBUST said:
The problem is that sometimes, if you have one-itis, it's important to end things definitively for closure when the girl clearly has NO interest level. Closure is important to moving on because it prevents you from holding on to shreds of false hope.
Agreed. You have to make a clean break if you're too into her.

If it's just a girl you recently started dating... then the situation is different and as with most, if not all girls, you do a takeaway after demonstrating value.
 
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