Never allow yourself to get too deep into thoughts on chicks/dating

[Naughty Ninja]

Though I've read lots of sensible good well thought out advice and replies on So Suave I will say a relatively small piece of advice.

Don't let yourself get too deep into thoughts on chicks, dating, and all of this So Suave stuff.

Keep it relatively simple with the advice you've been given or thoughts on all this nonsense.

Reason being IMO is if you allow yourself to get too deep and continuosly think about, long drawn out posts, answers, theories etc. (At times it's ok) on all this crap you'll find yourself frying your brains over it.

Live your life and be the absolute best person you can be. Keep it (without me trying to sound like a new age whack-a-doo) Zen like. Brush that dirt off your shoulders, dismiss people who bring you down, don't pedestalize ANY chick, and don't expect to ever be a 'sage' on all this nonsense. It's like immersing yourself constantly in a 'problem' and going over and over and over 'solutions' that may work one time and not another.

In closing. Don't obsess over sh1t you can't control. You have your life and other people have theirs. Live yours for you and use the advice that fits you to not make someone your world but a part of your life till you both possibly grow together and become one.

 

[SoSuave666]

No question this is great advice. When I first got on this site it was like one woman hating/over-analyzing thread after another. I internalized as much as I could and wound up going out and looking to show my higher value over a woman because I lost respect for women. Also, if you analyze everything you give yourself limited growth opportunity. You confine yourself to certain "methods" or "practices." Analytics may be very functional in the world business, but when it comes to other human beings it can deter your improvement.

If you end up taking every success in your life as a mold for future success, you'll be very unhappy with the results. Likewise, if you take every failure as the script for failure, you'll be missing out on a lot of opportunities. Women are human beings, and each one reacts differently to different situations. Roll with the punches, do your thing, and don't think too much.

 

[badboyjmm]

Don't obsess over sh1t you can't control. .

I'm adding this quote as a sig. Good advice !

 

[SoldMySoul]

Absolutely! Ever since I found this site years ago, I have always said STOP (guilty of it as well) analyzing the entire process and JUST have fun. I have gotten back into full swing dating and I have done much better with stop trying to figure it and the women out.

But what I have learned is this: I now put up with far less garbage than I used to and I have done quite a lot of nexting as of late. Hurts my feelings not in the least bit.

If I sense games, you get 2-3 strikes. If they are interested, it is very apparent and you do not have to try and analyze it to death.

Thanks for the reminder!

 

[blind_one]

When you think about it, just a little, in a moment of clarity which I have rarely ( I mean I'm capable of analytical thinging and stuff) but in the even deeper state you might have had your good moments, did good despite being an AFC or a newbie, just eliminate the "bad" by being a Man ( now thats deep ).

 

[the_stig]

Good post Naughty.

Providng an exciting life for yourself with genuine interests and good friends is the sure fire way to avoid getting stuck in a loop of dating frustrations.

If these girls aren't an afterthought you probably aren't staying busy enough.

 

[Solomon]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Naughty Ninja again.

most definitely blog worthy