Technical1
Senior Don Juan
Hello and thank you to all contributors here for liberating me from faulty mental programming. What I have here is a suggestion for overcoming Oneitis. I will intertwine it with my story because it seemed to work for me, (sample size=1), and that will tell you the context of this tip.
I got over my three-year-long case of Oneitis just one year ago. Nevertheless I was suffering from romantic and sexual malaise. I suspected that, on some level, I still desired and dreamed about my ex/infatuation, even though I had stopped talking to her and fantasizing about her, even thinking about her at all. I was over her. But I didnt "want" any other women very much- strange, quite strange. I couldnt play the game because I couldnt get interested in any women. Subconsciously, as I now think, I was still involved with my ex. But I wasnt thinking at all about her. Strange.
This tip comes from neurobiology, my current area of study in grad school.
It is basically a way to bring your subconscious into line with your intention to rid yourself of an infatuation. Here it is:
I downloaded fotos of my Ex off of a social networking site, and spliced them together with pictures of people ****ting, pictures of ****, pictures of lip infections, pictures of tarantulas, and any other disturbing picture I could find on the internet. I used iMovie, and programmed the pictures to be shown for 0.3 seconds each, unfortunately they could not be shown for shorter. This is more than enough time for the subconscious and conscious mind to recognize the pictures. The mind, simply because of the way it works, strengthens synaptic connections between neurons that fire simultaneously.
I was programming my subconscious to associate her face with **** and spiders.
I watched this movie, which flickers by so fast you hardly make out what the images are, for a half an hour before I went to sleep each night. I would either force myself to watch it (difficult), or watch another TV show with my computer right behind the monitor, so I was actually seeing it with peripheral vision. Altogether I probably watched this movie on loop repeat itself for 7 hours.
Then I stopped. I thought, this is too sick. Also, because of the disgusting pictures, I hated the video. I really didnt want to watch it, and I felt morbid and strange doing something so outlandish. I only watched the video for about 8 days.
Fast forward two weeks later. I look at her picture on the social networking site, and instead of feeling a whistful, longing something calling out to me, which I always felt but repressed, I felt disgusted. Her picture turns me off. I really dislike the way her face looks and although I think I still find her sexy as a person, I can no longer imagine what it was that made me like her. This is because subconsciously, her picture is associated with **** and spiders, which puts me in a feeling of distress. This is the same person that I was convinced was the only person that could ever make me happy.
In addition, I got my motivation back. I wrote 2 girlfriends who I had simply blown off for a lack of interest (I wasnt interested in anyone!) and arranged a date with one of them. I also discovered this site and when I get home from visiting my relatives, I am going to use these tips to climb the ladder of playerdom like you wouldnt believe!
Normally I wouldnt mess with my wiring like this- but what does it mean to fall in love? You fantasize, you associate the girl with your dreams, the fun times you had together, your dreams about life together-- in effect, you build a vast subconscious network of positive associations in a dreamworld that doesnt exist. This is the reverse of that process- building negative connections: it is like falling out of love, except the fall is engineered.
Recommended for those who fell hard, deep, and cannot easily find a way out. :box:
I got over my three-year-long case of Oneitis just one year ago. Nevertheless I was suffering from romantic and sexual malaise. I suspected that, on some level, I still desired and dreamed about my ex/infatuation, even though I had stopped talking to her and fantasizing about her, even thinking about her at all. I was over her. But I didnt "want" any other women very much- strange, quite strange. I couldnt play the game because I couldnt get interested in any women. Subconsciously, as I now think, I was still involved with my ex. But I wasnt thinking at all about her. Strange.
This tip comes from neurobiology, my current area of study in grad school.
It is basically a way to bring your subconscious into line with your intention to rid yourself of an infatuation. Here it is:
I downloaded fotos of my Ex off of a social networking site, and spliced them together with pictures of people ****ting, pictures of ****, pictures of lip infections, pictures of tarantulas, and any other disturbing picture I could find on the internet. I used iMovie, and programmed the pictures to be shown for 0.3 seconds each, unfortunately they could not be shown for shorter. This is more than enough time for the subconscious and conscious mind to recognize the pictures. The mind, simply because of the way it works, strengthens synaptic connections between neurons that fire simultaneously.
I was programming my subconscious to associate her face with **** and spiders.
I watched this movie, which flickers by so fast you hardly make out what the images are, for a half an hour before I went to sleep each night. I would either force myself to watch it (difficult), or watch another TV show with my computer right behind the monitor, so I was actually seeing it with peripheral vision. Altogether I probably watched this movie on loop repeat itself for 7 hours.
Then I stopped. I thought, this is too sick. Also, because of the disgusting pictures, I hated the video. I really didnt want to watch it, and I felt morbid and strange doing something so outlandish. I only watched the video for about 8 days.
Fast forward two weeks later. I look at her picture on the social networking site, and instead of feeling a whistful, longing something calling out to me, which I always felt but repressed, I felt disgusted. Her picture turns me off. I really dislike the way her face looks and although I think I still find her sexy as a person, I can no longer imagine what it was that made me like her. This is because subconsciously, her picture is associated with **** and spiders, which puts me in a feeling of distress. This is the same person that I was convinced was the only person that could ever make me happy.
In addition, I got my motivation back. I wrote 2 girlfriends who I had simply blown off for a lack of interest (I wasnt interested in anyone!) and arranged a date with one of them. I also discovered this site and when I get home from visiting my relatives, I am going to use these tips to climb the ladder of playerdom like you wouldnt believe!
Normally I wouldnt mess with my wiring like this- but what does it mean to fall in love? You fantasize, you associate the girl with your dreams, the fun times you had together, your dreams about life together-- in effect, you build a vast subconscious network of positive associations in a dreamworld that doesnt exist. This is the reverse of that process- building negative connections: it is like falling out of love, except the fall is engineered.
Recommended for those who fell hard, deep, and cannot easily find a way out. :box:
