Nervousness...

[Jon55]

I'm having a lot of trouble getting over this little problem, and I don't even understand how it starts. I have no problem approaching, or flirting, or getting to know girls and having them fall for me. Making girls laugh is easy (and fun), and not just being a dork but genuinely making them laugh. They call and want to hang out all the time, etc. I love girls. But when I get involved with a girl romantically, I find myself slowly getting choked up.

Over time, I start to get more nervous and shy around her. It feels so unnatural. Its like I suddenly realize I have something to lose, and it worries me. I don't know how to get over this fear. I don't want to be in a relationship with several girls at once to try and counter-balance my fear or anything like that.

 

[slaog]

You're basing all your happiness on just the 1 girl and if it doesn't work out you'll be left unhappy. Thats why you ae nervous. You are afraid of it not working out.

Stop trying to rely on women to make you happy! Happiness comes from within so become a happy person.

Short term yo should spin some plates. At least have a few girls as backup. You may not want to date them but they're there in the background at least.

 

[schttrj]

well, i agree with slaog, that you are focussing too much on one girl. i think u should adopt the mindset that ur only learning at the moment. these are practice. and if u get a quality one, just go on having fun but that is practice. and keep that as practice. u should care more about her as time goes but after all, she is one of ur practice.