For some reason I always get really bad nerves on first dates. This usually makes for painful first dates with a lot of awkward silences. I freeze up, shake like a leaf and generally cannot relax and vibe with the girl.
This is particularly a problem if the girl is quiet and if we don't really have an instant connection.
Obviously if Im having a string of dates then the nerves reduce a bit. But that is kind of time consuming and whenever I have a relationship so leave the dating game, Im back to where I started.
I was thinking perhaps the traditional first date-drinks and dinner is perhaps a bad match for my personality. I don't really like talking about myself to complete strangers and I need to get comfortable being with someone until I open up and enjoy conversing with them.
So I was thinking of different types of bonding activities.....perhaps action dates, trips to art galleries or markets, even going to a movie
I think a lot of the anxiety comes from finding things to say and feeling the social pressure that comes from awkward silences. So that would be a way around it.
Any other advice related to this problem would be much appreciated.
And yeah I know the basics of conversation....asking questions and trying to get her to talk about herself and that can work when the girl is very talkative but there are a lot of girls out there who seem to be nervous on dates and don't talk much
This is particularly a problem if the girl is quiet and if we don't really have an instant connection.
Obviously if Im having a string of dates then the nerves reduce a bit. But that is kind of time consuming and whenever I have a relationship so leave the dating game, Im back to where I started.
I was thinking perhaps the traditional first date-drinks and dinner is perhaps a bad match for my personality. I don't really like talking about myself to complete strangers and I need to get comfortable being with someone until I open up and enjoy conversing with them.
So I was thinking of different types of bonding activities.....perhaps action dates, trips to art galleries or markets, even going to a movie
I think a lot of the anxiety comes from finding things to say and feeling the social pressure that comes from awkward silences. So that would be a way around it.
Any other advice related to this problem would be much appreciated.
And yeah I know the basics of conversation....asking questions and trying to get her to talk about herself and that can work when the girl is very talkative but there are a lot of girls out there who seem to be nervous on dates and don't talk much