"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nemonin's Lifting Journal

Nemonin

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Well, seeing as I'm out a gym partner and would like a little motivation, I'm going to give one of these journals a shot!

About me:
Age: 18
Height: 6' 1"
Weight: 175lbs
BF%: Don't know for sure, under 15% as a guess.

Routine:
Using the 3 day 5x5 routine done by Iron Addict, found here:
http://www.ironaddicts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=20480

Diet:
My diet is pretty dynamic as of now, and would maybe like to make it more consistant. That being said I only eat natural foods (ie. nothing processed), meaning lots of eggs, meat, milk, veggies/fruit. I attempt to eat every 3 hours.

Cardio:
I don't have many goals for my cardio, except to keep fat levels down and improve my endurance. I normally use my eliptical as it starts to get cold in the winter up here, but once and a while I go to the treadmill at the gym. To be done inbetween workout days.

Thursday Sept. 10 '09

Basically a warmup day into the routine. I went to find out my 5RM max's. They were disappointing. Summer blows.

Bench: 140x5
Squat: 140x5
Deadlift: 185x5

I lost about 20 pounds over the summer and I'm guessing my strength went with it. I want to see these go much higher this winter, especially my squat 2 bench ratio.

Monday, Sept. 14 '09

In the gym:

Bench: 5x90
5x95
5x100
5x105
5x110

Chins:9 reps(BW)
5 reps
4 reps

Tricep PD:3x8@80lbs

Lateral raise:5x10@12lbs

Can't remember what I ate, will try to be more precise about this later.

Tuesday, Sept. 15 '09

Didn't do cardio and didn't eat well/enough. I have distractions in life, and hopefully reflecting on this by writing it down will help me :D.

TODAY

Going to the gym shortly. Already had a shake this morning, gonna eat up first then head out.

Sorry for long post, had to get it all out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wednesday, Sept. 16 '09

Squat:5x90
5x95
5x100
5x105
5x110

Deadlift:5x130
5x140
5x150

Ab work and Calf work.

Had to use the smith machine for squatting today which was really annoying. This stuff is pretty standard and is easy right now due to the sub maximal work. I think it will become more interesting and challenging when I'm pushing past my max and setting PR's as much as possible.

I ate pretty well today and tried to eat lots :D.

Shake
Pasta/veggies
Shake
Beef/veggies
My shake normally consists of: milk, banana, oats and whey.

Probably gonna have another shake and some tuna or something later on. I have late days and stay up until after midnight normally, so it's still early for me.

I notice how uninteresting my journal is, and is going to be, but I guess it's really for me and not for entertainment :D.
 

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Thursday, Sept. 17 '09

30 mins cardio on Eliptical @ 7 mph

Ate:
Shake -added strawberries
Beef/veggies
Shake - eggs instead of oats
veggies...and JUNK.

:\ Having company over makes me do bad things! But that's no excuse.

Friday, Sept. 18 '09

Bench:5x5@110lbs

Dips:3x8@BW

Rows:5x5@70lbs

Now it's not described what kind of rows I should be doing, so I just did them on a t-bar machine. I'm assuming the actual bar of the machine weighs nothing when I say 70lbs.

Ate:
Shake
Beef/veggies
Shake
Pasta/eggs
Tuna/veggies

I'm liking keeping my diet a little more consistent like this. The shakes may end up costly, but everything else is pretty cheap. Feeling confident that once I'm done doing sub-maximal work I can break through all of my max's.:woo:
 

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Saturday, Sept. 19 '09

30 mins cardio on Eliptical @ 7.5 speed

I'm going to avoid posting all the food I eat every day, and rather point out the bad things I ate instead. Today was strict, shakes and raw foods.

Sunday, Sept. 20 '09

Rest.

Monday, Sept. 21 '09

Bench:5x105lbs
5x110
5x115
5x120
5x125

Chins:9 reps
4 reps
4 reps

Tricep PD:3x8@80lbs

Lateral raise:5x10@15lbs

Continuing to work on my bench form, seems to be improving. Might raise up the weight on the PD's depending on how I feel with more bench weight.

Tuesday, Sept. 22 '09

Rest.

Should be doing cardio but I'm a lazy prick.:D Least I ate good.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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