You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ROFLCOPTERS....Originally posted by tristan22
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What are you his spokesperson? There is no hatred in my reply, just mere opinion--if this threatens you, so be it! I do not live vicariously through these individuals, i go out and make my own success! Although i agree that they do write about some interesting things, their methods overcomplicate the act of getting dates. How do you know this guy is getting tons of girls and dates? Having knowledge about a subject and dating any girl of your choosing, are two different scenarios!
I have seen the above mentioned crap methods applied in the field. Mind you, by individuals who post here--and they failed.........MISERABLY. The girls practically tripped and fell trying to escape these guys!
Girls want fun and excitement, not some moron coming up to them and asking them for their female opinion! The 3 second rule, is the only rule i follow. I approach without hesitation, if the chemistry is there and the girl is fun to talk with, i ask for her #--no more, no less.
If you are friends with this guy, i will bet him $1000.00 he cannot get the caliber of girls he says he can in my neck of the woods.
yes, but him putting it on TV will captivate more people then if he had not. eventually it's going to be common ground that this stuff works and all guys will be trying to do it. it's just a matter of time, and when that happens the stuff will stop working!Originally posted by Aaron B
I disagree. Anyone who is determined to change their success with women will find the info. There is too much on the web for them not to.
And a large % of those who know nothing of "our world" are going to read the book but not make any changes in their lives and will still have limited success with women.
The real kicker for men is seeing Neil Strauss's hot girlfriend in the audience. That was some good PR advertising work there for those that needed "proof".Originally posted by Jon341427
yes, but him putting it on TV will captivate more people then if he had not. eventually it's going to be common ground that this stuff works and all guys will be trying to do it. it's just a matter of time, and when that happens the stuff will stop working!
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.