negs didnt work...advice?

[corduroy]

tried negs for the first time last night, nothing too critical just made a comment or two about the girls nails and hair, ones taken straight from a list of negs on this website. seemed like they worked, i was just testing the waters and i got a reaction like they worked. didnt end up taking her home because i had to go home early but definitely thought they worked, however my friend just called me to tell me how much of an ******* the girl thought i was and asked why i was being such a **** to her, and when i asked why she thought so she specifically mentioned the negs i dropped. what the hell is up with this? any ideas?

 

[eaglez1177]

You probably didnt say it in a jokingly-enough manner. The chicks thought you were being serious rather than just jokin around.

 

[Paradox]

tried negs for the first time last night, nothing too critical just made a comment or two about the girls nails and hair, ones taken straight from a list of negs on this website. seemed like they worked, i was just testing the waters and i got a reaction like they worked. didn't end up taking her home because i had to go home early but definitely thought they worked, however my friend just called me to tell me how much of an ******* the girl thought i was and asked why i was being such a **** to her, and when i asked why she thought so she specifically mentioned the negs i dropped. what the hell is up with this? any ideas?

You got exactly the response that you were supposed to get. If you want to use negs you have to go all the way. You used one technique that should be chained with C&F. You need the whole package. If you are throwing around negs you need to follow up with the badass attitude.

There are some rules when using negs:

1. They should only be used on babes who are 8,9 or 10(on the 1-10 rating scale)

2. You can't use negs on girls with low self esteem.

3. You have to follow up negs with the proper badass attitude

When she said you were being a **** that means that you had everything right except the attitude.

I would have noticed her pouting about my negs and I would have comforted her with some C&F followed by more negs followed by more C&F and then more negs



(forgive the grammar and spelling errors as I can not type and look at the screen at the same time)

 

[Igetit!]

Paradox is exactly right.

This girl responded the way she was supposed to react. Plus,if you said this within earshot of other people,then how was she supposed to respond?

What was it you were expecting her to do,rip off her clothes and jump on you right then and there?

On the outside,she may he appeared agitated or annoyed,but internally I suspect she probably felt some attraction towards you.

Don't be surprised if she tries to contact you in some way.

I guarantee you she probably wouldn't have even mentioned you to her friend,or even remembered you if you had did the standard "nice guy" approach.

Now here's the kicker: If this girl indeed does try to get in touch with you,and you start being "nice" to her because you don't want to offend her or make her mad,YOU'LL KILL ANY ATTRACTION she has for you.

The way you were in the beginning is the way you'll have to stay.

IF YOU CHANGE,then her attraction for you WILL CHANGE as well.

The fact that you asked this question means that you have a slight misunderstanding about how attraction works for women.

You unknowingly found a needle in a haystack. You hit a 90 mile per hour fast ball blindfolded.

The neg worked the way it was supposed to,and you got worried.

If her tries to contact you,stay the same. Use a slight neg or two more.
Don't spend the whole conversation negging her,just drop in one every now and then.

If you do meet up with her,tell her you like the shirt she has on,but she might want to run the iron over it a few times before she decides to wear it out again.

You're ok dude,just don't go "nice guy" on her.

 

[King Valmont]

Haha Igetit's totally right...

I love clowning girls when we are together... ex on dates. I prefer to be direct when meeting a girl for the first time. Many guys cannot pull off negs, and need to switch up their fightin style. Other guys can neg and since it works for them thats great... Try everything you can.. see what works and when in doubt be bold.....

 

[Soprano]

lol thats what u get for using canned lines....whether you like it or not, you're not a couple of "rules" or "lines" away from getting laid by hot chicks....its about self improvement....and bringing out your own personality in it's most raw form without all of the wimpiness and afcness surrounding it....

 

[moorerodney]

Don't think of it as negging, because many people have the definition or use of negging as to lower her social status and make her prove herself (making her more attracted). The key is to think of the whole exchange as playing with her; being playful. It's very simple, when you neg her with your intentions directed toward being playful, instead of bring her down (who wants to be around someone thats trying to bring them down?), it will naturally come from a playful place so to her. She will take it as being playful, since she is a master at reading emotions.
It is a canned neg, and it is difficult to get it right the first time ( almost like making 'the jump' in the matrix) so keep doing what you do my friend, your on your way and your have the best community of pimps helping you along the way lmao

 

[Hughman]

Hehe, I've been there on occasion.

One girl I think has sussed me out and is saying things like 'Is that how you treat women?' and 'How far does that normally get you with an attitude like that?'

Tbf I was just pounding her with negs. I'm not interested in her, as her bro is a mate of mine, but I still love to practice running some game.

 

[Blown5.0]

i have a habit of throwing out negs...then i would see her reaction ( she has a low self esteem ) then going back and tryin to be nice!
for example.... she has a nice stomach...not completely flat but still nice. she was tryin to dog on me...and i just brushed it off and she keeped pushin...so i said jokingly " you might need to go take a couple laps around the house... " and you could tell that hit her hard..haha. but then i felt like a **** and tried to be all nice " baby you know your not fat " i can see i got soft!

 

[IamtheAlphamale]

You see my problem with using c+f the way you guys say with negs and all this is that... you guys are not being natural at all. Your using strategy and strategy is weakness. The more you rely on a crutch, the more you limit your own self growth. Your putting the emphasis on her and not on you.

 

[COD]

the problem with NEGS...................IT REQUIRES YEARS TO MASTER, periodic calibration, does nothing to build rapport.

THE PROBLEM LIES IN THE missing essential variable in certain percentage..........HUMOR.

 

[Sandow]

I would rather have a girl call me an ******* rather than "nice" any day.

 

[Kevin Feng]

Be careful with negging, when most guys, including myself try using them to begin with, they just come across as offensive and abrasive, try ****y funny instead, try teasing girls instead of blatantly trying to bring their value down.

Anyways, don’t take the attack personally, take everything as feedback that’s all it is. You messed up and that’s all there is to it, recalibrate and try again.

Happy Huntin

 

[#41]

Be careful with negging, when most guys, including myself try using them to begin with, they just come across as offensive and abrasive, try ****y funny instead, try teasing girls instead of blatantly trying to bring their value down.

Good advice.

Think of negs as a boxing "jab" as opposed to an uppercut or a big swing. You shouldn't be trying to knock the girl out with a neg, you should be just looking to get under her skin a bit.

A good neg hit stays superficial -- clothing, choice of drink, word use, opinion on something, taste, etc. It stays away from serious issues -- politics, religion, weight, etc.

The key is to be fun. If you're fun, and being funny, you're going to naturally cut on her a little bit.

 

[aomega54]

Have you asked yourself why you felt the need to neg her in the first place?

AO

 

[scrouds]

THANK YOU Paradox and Igetit!

Negs make more sense now. Anyone reading this, go back to those posts and reread.

 

[DonGorgon]

negs only work on women who are already attracted to you, and value your opinion of them for that reason...


MOVE ON..

negs dont make a woman like you... they make a woman who already likes you feel off balance and insecure and anxious which is a good thing