"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Negotiating with someone that screwed you over

Reyaj

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If someone ****ed you over in a deal of any kind, how would you approach a future negotiation with them if you had no choice?

Would you call them out on their previous bs.... show anger.. threaten them? Or is it better to just try and be nice about it.........
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I would use blackmail to be quite honest if I had anything on that particular person.

Using threats or anger just isn't going to get the job done if the person doesn't believe anything bad will happen to them.

In fact it would make you look weak.

If I couldn't use blackmail I would try and have my bases covered before dealing with that person again and approach them in a calm collected manner so that if it was a business deal or whatever they would get in legal trouble this time if they were to screw me over again.
 

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Explain the circumstances....it'll help us visualize what you're talking about.
But really, you always have someone else. YOU
 

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Well I went to buy a new cell phone and it was at one of these independently owned places and the sales person talked me into getting 2 lines so I can get the phone cheaper and then cancel 1 of the lines when my contract was up. Well it turns out both lines were enrolled for a 2 year agreement and I am stuck paying the 2 lines. He conned me. Do I go tell him off or try to work something out? I dont think theres anything he can do since the contract is with the cell service though.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Unfortunately even though the guy lied, you would lose in court, because any contract dispute is governed by the terms of the agreement only, and contemporaneous oral statements are irrelevant. That essentially means that they can get away with lying. Courts do it this way in part because of the difficulty in proving who said what. So fwiw, what the salesman says means zero; you have to read and understand what is written in the contract.

Just act like it never happened, but never believe anything he says. Get everything in writing and understand it first, which btw I know is not easy, fine print is not meant to be easily understood.
 

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BB you are 100 percent right and I realize this. My instinct is to go tell him off of threaten to report his business to the better business bureau. However Ive been reading this book about Negotiating and it says you should try to focus on common interests and sepreate people from the problem etc... so it clouded my judgement for a second but this isn't a negotiation he conned me...

So yeah maybe I should try to negotiate for a credit or something and if not threathen to report him to the BBB?

is it it even worth it you think??
 

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You have nothing against the guy. He didn't screw you. You were stupid and he sold to the stupid. Unethical.

You should not deal with people that are unethical.

There are other ways out. Such as sell one of your phones, that will help to pay the cancelation fee.


Don't hate the player buddy, hate the game. Know the game and play it, or otherwise be left out and get played.


Going back to get played more?? I don't know. Step up, pay up, and move on.
 
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