"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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negging/ultimatums appear to work or am i being fooled?

drift king

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as per my other thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=162498

the HB got back to me today saying that she had a horrible night last night and wasnt sure if she was able to meet up today however if i wanted to meet it would be ok..

the thing is i never actually made arrangements with her today to let me know if we're meeting today which seems to be a break down in communication as i told her to let me know today a time in future.

she seemed to assume we were meeting today as she cancelled yesterday.

anyway i was out with my other girl so i wasn't able to respond to the text cos she was constantly looking and we didnt get back till like about 6pm and i was shattered i fell asleep with her then got woke up about 8.30pm. my girl left so i sent the text just before 9 saying i could meet up but it would have to be at 10pm or tomorrow at 7.

she text back saying she was already in bed, and tomorrow she had dinner, tuesday: theatre, and offered wednesday but no specific time.

i feel i may have done the wrong thing, cos i responded with: yeah as long as its definitely on ;) lol you've used up your 1 cancellation already..;) meet me at 9 on wednesday same place. see u then'

am i appearing too available by offering to meet up at the last sec tonight and also offering tomorrow if tonight wasn't suitable, then when she says she couldnt, agreeing to wednesday given the hassle it takes to arrange a firm time with her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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m conscious im appearing too available when shes been testing me this whole time, and so far i've responded correctly and read her the right, negging her telling her certain behaviour is not acceptable.. but is offering so many times just shows the opposite?

she responded today to meet up even tho she didnt feel like it but was scared i'd next her so agreed, i probably would have met her had i not been exhausted when i got back with my other girl.

i feel like this girl will just cancel again on wednesday to test me to see if i back up my claims of her only having 1 cancellation. shes leaving july 15th to go travelling then goes back to her home country so i dont have much time to bang her hence maybe why i accepted her counteroffer of wednesday.
 

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is she actually interested or just playing me?

her text of 'hey, how r u? i dont know if im able to make it today. im not feeling good. had an awful night yest, but if u wanna meet up its ok.'

basically had i agreed she would have shown, maybe reluctantly but in fear i would next her. maybe she was looking to bang, shes leaving in a week and a half so the lack of time may or may not be to my advantage.

with a time restraint should u still act cool about it? cos i cant wait a week before contacting as per normal as she'll be gone by then..
 
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