That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Same here, when I first got into the game I took negging to heart. Now, I don't even know what it is, but its not neccessary.ElStud said:Really I don't neg girls anymore because it's just not me.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Negging...bleh. I believe Killapetehog said it best "When a woman has fallen for you, all the tactics, methods, tricks and tips are unneeded. She is in the palm of your hands and all you need to do is to just be yourself. Once a woman loves you, you don’t have to act “cool” anymore. She’s yours."Masaka said:Neg in a playful way and make her qualify. (ASK HER IF THERE IS MORE TO HER THAN JUST HER LOOKS). You are displaying value here and also being different from most guys.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
If you have internal strength, and a strong sense of individuality. You would never fall into "Wuss" mode.Masaka said:You know what EVOLUTION i think you are right of course when you get a girl you can be yourself for sure, but you still have to be just a bit challenging remember we do not want to turn into a WUSS!!!! just because of love.
I'm starting to have my doubts. Not with the above statement, thats true, I've screwed up recently by playing and not taking action when the chick was already into em. However if a chick isn't interested in you are tactics methods and tricks going to work for you? I doubt it. Especially in high school. If you use tricks and methods to get a girl to like you, it's probably going to be fake, you can't just turn into an AFC after than, you need to be congruent. I dont like the preasumption that AFTER you use tricvks you can "just be yourself". Just being yourself is actually the best advice for getting women there is, the problem is that almost no one understands it properly.Negging...bleh. I believe Killapetehog said it best "When a woman has fallen for you, all the tactics, methods, tricks and tips are unneeded. She is in the palm of your hands and all you need to do is to just be yourself. Once a woman loves you, you don’t have to act “cool” anymore. She’s yours."
I agree that the term "neg" is all crap....I mean, it is just teasing, and it has such a negative connotation (haha....negging is negative :crackup: ) IMO, negging is pretty much the same as C&F.SinJester said:I'm starting to have my doubts. Not with the above statement, thats true, I've screwed up recently by playing and not taking action when the chick was already into em. However if a chick isn't interested in you are tactics methods and tricks going to work for you? I doubt it. Especially in high school. If you use tricks and methods to get a girl to like you, it's probably going to be fake, you can't just turn into an AFC after than, you need to be congruent. I dont like the preasumption that AFTER you use tricvks you can "just be yourself". Just being yourself is actually the best advice for getting women there is, the problem is that almost no one understands it properly.
I also don't like the term neg. You can use it right and you can use it wrong. Negging is basically just teasing, girls like being treated like little kids. It isn't something magic, it isn't an isnult, it isn't meant to be sneaky. Really the only way you are going to find out how it works for you is to try it.
Anyone heard the saying "treat the *****s like princesses and the princesses like *****s". That's gold if you use it properly. Treat the girls with a high opinion of themselves like they aren't good looking and the girls with low self-esteem like they are beatifull. That way you are doing the opposite of what every guy is doing, possibly creating attraction and making sure she will remember you. Using that logic only neg girls a lot if they get complements from guys all the time (probably most good looking girls that go out a bit).
Also don't underestimate the power of a sincere complement. It shouldnt be 'your hot', it should only be her looks if it's something specific and unique or something she worked on. The best complements are about her personality, how often does a guy do that?
Anyone agree with me?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.