You guys have friends who are always negative? How do you deal with them? I try to get my sxxx together and be the best I can be, then negative friends would come in and make very mean comments (most times not necessarily mean but pessimistic), almost feeling like they wants to drag me down to his status of mind. I know being alpha I shouldn't care about others' opinions and take sxxx from no one, but how about friends'? Or I should keep distance from them?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Negative Energy
- Thread starter LeonSK
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
GotED?
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Call me one of the spiritual phucked DJ on here but I feel for your situation.
You should only spend your energy with people who make you feel good - and this is an absolute must when it comes to women because you do open yourself up to becoming vulnerable when you spend time with the opposite sex. Yes, lots of wanna-be-DJ's on here talk up a good sh!t about how they don't get emotionally involved. But then once every week you get someone starting a thread about 'Help, I've Fallen In Love With My Main Plate' and I can't eat it all! LOL.....
So here's the thing - imagine that you have a water bucket, and you have a full bucket of energy to start with each morning you wake up. How do you use that bucket of energy that is consecratedly finite and limited resources of who you are in the best possible way?
Every heard of 'Energy Vampires'? These are the people you interact with, and leave you feeling DRAINED aftewards. How can you tell if someone is negative and is an energy vampire? You FEEL DRAINED afterward talking to them - this is due to an unbalanced exchange of energy - they literally sucked that bucket of energy you have (Attention Whoores, people who can't shut the PHUCK UP and never listen, people puts you down constantly), or a good portion of it leaving you with very little for the rest of your day.
So imagine the more negative people you deal with who does not uplift you, you create a hole at the bottom of your bucket. What happens? Yes, you leak your precious energy little by little. By 3 or 4pm in your day, you have nothing left and just want to die on your couch when you get home. Negative co-workers? Negative friends? B!tches are your plates? Get rid of them.
Spend time only with people who creates happiness in your life - the rest are just garbage. Remember the less energy you have left in your bucket, the less you can create good things in your life. This is called the principle of 'The Law of Attraction' (no, you muthafuuckers, not the pickup artist theories), such as very naively outlined in the popular book 'The Secret'.
Basically - you MUST first work on yourself (as one of the main DJ principles here) to become a better man. Be positive yourself, and you WILL ATTRACT the same type of people into your life in every aspect. Good luck.
Be well.
Exodus
You should only spend your energy with people who make you feel good - and this is an absolute must when it comes to women because you do open yourself up to becoming vulnerable when you spend time with the opposite sex. Yes, lots of wanna-be-DJ's on here talk up a good sh!t about how they don't get emotionally involved. But then once every week you get someone starting a thread about 'Help, I've Fallen In Love With My Main Plate' and I can't eat it all! LOL.....
So here's the thing - imagine that you have a water bucket, and you have a full bucket of energy to start with each morning you wake up. How do you use that bucket of energy that is consecratedly finite and limited resources of who you are in the best possible way?
Every heard of 'Energy Vampires'? These are the people you interact with, and leave you feeling DRAINED aftewards. How can you tell if someone is negative and is an energy vampire? You FEEL DRAINED afterward talking to them - this is due to an unbalanced exchange of energy - they literally sucked that bucket of energy you have (Attention Whoores, people who can't shut the PHUCK UP and never listen, people puts you down constantly), or a good portion of it leaving you with very little for the rest of your day.
So imagine the more negative people you deal with who does not uplift you, you create a hole at the bottom of your bucket. What happens? Yes, you leak your precious energy little by little. By 3 or 4pm in your day, you have nothing left and just want to die on your couch when you get home. Negative co-workers? Negative friends? B!tches are your plates? Get rid of them.
Spend time only with people who creates happiness in your life - the rest are just garbage. Remember the less energy you have left in your bucket, the less you can create good things in your life. This is called the principle of 'The Law of Attraction' (no, you muthafuuckers, not the pickup artist theories), such as very naively outlined in the popular book 'The Secret'.
Basically - you MUST first work on yourself (as one of the main DJ principles here) to become a better man. Be positive yourself, and you WILL ATTRACT the same type of people into your life in every aspect. Good luck.
Be well.
Exodus
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
I have a friend just like this. He's a cool dude but he hates the world because his parents were murdered when he was 5. Yeah its terrible but he's not the only one in the galaxy to lose their parents.
We were at a party, plenty of harlots walking around looking all smexy, everyone's having a goodtime and then we move over to get some food. Everyone grubs comments from everywhere emerge " that's great" "mmmmm" "delicious " and of course here comes my negative ass buddy " I don't want any of that nasty ass food" and cops a whole attitude for NO reason like a b1tch. Initially, I callem out on it, "Yo, why you being a b1tch?" I say. Then the crowd follows " Yeah why you always so b1tchy?" He looks at us, my sob-story radar starts tingling. Fast-foward " I Iost my parents" speech. Sure I wouldn't be Dandy Dan if my parents died but there's no need to be mad at the world. I have another bud whose mom was killed by a mugger and he's a normal Guy. He doesn't blame it on the universe like my one pal does.
Nevertheless, I now respond by being completely oblivious to the negativity and only responding to positivity (sorta like How I'd do a female) And I limit my time around him. He's cool and a good Guy so I'm not just gonna "cut all negative people" like some advise. That's unrealistic
Just thought I'd share my experience
We were at a party, plenty of harlots walking around looking all smexy, everyone's having a goodtime and then we move over to get some food. Everyone grubs comments from everywhere emerge " that's great" "mmmmm" "delicious " and of course here comes my negative ass buddy " I don't want any of that nasty ass food" and cops a whole attitude for NO reason like a b1tch. Initially, I callem out on it, "Yo, why you being a b1tch?" I say. Then the crowd follows " Yeah why you always so b1tchy?" He looks at us, my sob-story radar starts tingling. Fast-foward " I Iost my parents" speech. Sure I wouldn't be Dandy Dan if my parents died but there's no need to be mad at the world. I have another bud whose mom was killed by a mugger and he's a normal Guy. He doesn't blame it on the universe like my one pal does.
Nevertheless, I now respond by being completely oblivious to the negativity and only responding to positivity (sorta like How I'd do a female) And I limit my time around him. He's cool and a good Guy so I'm not just gonna "cut all negative people" like some advise. That's unrealistic
Just thought I'd share my experience
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
You get rid of those toxic fücks from your life. It's better to be alone than with negative shıtheads that kill your spirits.