"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Needy, wussy move?

Giantsfan88

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Guy suggests a date with no set time (mistake) through text, girl declines because of work, guy waits a day and calls her with alternate day and time, girl agrees; is this guy now a needy wuss in her eyes?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Giantsfan88 said:
Guy suggests a date with no set time (mistake) through text, girl declines because of work, guy waits a day and calls her with alternate day and time, girl agrees; is this guy now a needy wuss in her eyes?
Waiting a day to call her MAY have been a wuss move depending on the circumstance, but the point is that the girl agreed. What are you worried about?
 

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Well Darth if she thinks I'm a wuss, she'll be less sexually attracted to me. What do you mean by depending on the circumstances?
 

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Giantsfan88 said:
Guy suggests a date with no set time (mistake) through text, girl declines because of work, guy waits a day and calls her with alternate day and time, girl agrees; is this guy now a needy wuss in her eyes?
No, he is not. He is the guy he has been up until this point.

You are correct that the date request with no set time was a mistake. It is also disappointing that she didn't counter with a time that works for her. But I don't think that you have damaged your frame at all go on the date and see how it goes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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