This has been on my mind and wanted to get your thoughts. The past two LTRs I've had have involved extremely needy women, the type who don't seem to like to be alone - ever. (Unless they have some prescheduled task to complete, and even then.) It's warped my perception a bit and made me annoyed with relationships and women, but for almost the opposite reason you usually see around here.
I like my alone time, and get tired of hanging out with people. I'm very independent and solitary in many ways. I get lonely like everybody else, but I'm also outgoing and can meet people easily. This can't just be a male vs. female thing even though I know men are more like this.
Needy women seem great at first because they seem selfless and show a lot of interest. It's good for the ego. After time, though, the guilt games begin. They take it personally that you want to be alone or don't want to talk.
I know not all women are like this. I've seen other couples that have healthy space between them. I used to think of these women as too Westernized and masculine because they had a sense of healthy independence. Now, I'm not so sure.
The flip side is if a woman is less needy, it might put the man in a position of neediness himself. That's a natural thing, but I'm fairly experienced and red pill, so I don't see that as a hazard.
I'd like to hear your insights and experiences. I think above all else, if I am to take ownership, it's that I'm not great at establishing boundaries, or properly screening for this. Experience is a good teacher...
I like my alone time, and get tired of hanging out with people. I'm very independent and solitary in many ways. I get lonely like everybody else, but I'm also outgoing and can meet people easily. This can't just be a male vs. female thing even though I know men are more like this.
Needy women seem great at first because they seem selfless and show a lot of interest. It's good for the ego. After time, though, the guilt games begin. They take it personally that you want to be alone or don't want to talk.
I know not all women are like this. I've seen other couples that have healthy space between them. I used to think of these women as too Westernized and masculine because they had a sense of healthy independence. Now, I'm not so sure.
The flip side is if a woman is less needy, it might put the man in a position of neediness himself. That's a natural thing, but I'm fairly experienced and red pill, so I don't see that as a hazard.
I'd like to hear your insights and experiences. I think above all else, if I am to take ownership, it's that I'm not great at establishing boundaries, or properly screening for this. Experience is a good teacher...