Needy, Clingy, Dependent Women.....

[bmp2cpm]

A couple of questions for all of you:

1) From reading this forum for many years, most guys' advice on needy, clingy, dependent women is to run away from them

2) Are not needy, clingy, dependent women the exact opposite of independent, feminists?

3) By avoiding 5-stage clingers, are we as men indirectly promoting feminism?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear BMP2,
They make excellent plate material...Yes they are the opposite of Feminists,perhaps the realists in this Womens World!

 

[hockeyfreak79]

A lot of woman all masters at disguising their insecurities. Do your best to screen & weed out. You really have to be a detective or just ask them straight out, but guess what they might lie to you!
Stay away from any woman that has to take anti-depressants or fights with depression! TRUST ME They typically monkey branch from guy to guy & suck them emotionally dry. These broads exist, she may not be needy & clingy but it's still huge red flag. RUN RED FLAG!

Feminism is here to stay & I don't think there is sh*t we can do about it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Sheesh....

Forget about worrying about the global implosion of feminism or whatever.

Build up a list of criteria. The kinds of things you want in a woman.

Meet a bunch of women. Keep the one's that fit, eject the one's that don't.

Don't make it too complicated.

 

[jc_80]

Oh you'd be surprised just how needy a feminist can be once you get to know one. I had a fling with a feminist who was in law school. Her attitude was pretty hard core when I met her. Told me she doesn't take sh!t from men, wanted to be a judge to fix the sexist and racist laws of America. For whatever reason she had a soft spot for me. After we started sleeping together she got all soft and lovey dovey and wanted more attention than I could give her. I had to drop her eventually, not just because of her neediness but because of her unwavering adherence to feminism along with her contradicting view that she had a sense of entitlement for a man to take care of her. One time she asked me this - when you marry me will you buy me the biggest diamond ring out of everyone we know? She sent me a long email about how I broke her heart and left voicemails about giving us a chance for a real relationship.

My point? I believe feminism is more of a frame of mind than a personality trait such as neediness and selfishness. So no we're not promoting feminism by avoiding needy women.

 

[GS750]

needy/clingy/insecure girls are just so draining. constantly having to prop someone up because they have rock bottom self esteem is just not worth it in my opinion. it really gets tiresome and annoying after a while, and they are emotional vampires constantly in need of attention/validation. the more you give the more they take.

 

[BondAFC]

The reason to run from needy, clingy women is ultimately you can't possibly meet their increasingly unrealistic expectations.

Those unmet expectations trigger massive drama and BS...
The cycle just repeats itself over and over...

Like GS750 said, draining, a waste of time and money.

Find a happy, healthy woman (which is the opposite of needy/clingy) and have fun.

 

[glass half full]

Sheesh....

Forget about worrying about the global implosion of feminism or whatever.

Build up a list of criteria. The kinds of things you want in a woman.

Meet a bunch of women. Keep the one's that fit, eject the one's that don't.

Don't make it too complicated.

and this...

The reason to run from needy, clingy women is ultimately you can't possibly meet their increasingly unrealistic expectations.

Those unmet expectations trigger massive drama and BS...
The cycle just repeats itself over and over...

Like GS750 said, draining, a waste of time and money.

Find a happy, healthy woman (which is the opposite of needy/clingy) and have fun.

Exactly.