Needing some tips on my game/image

[Black Widow Void]

It may sound like I'm on the right track when I say that women I date seem to hate themselves for falling for me. I'm speaking actually more about relationships.

I should have taken a career in engineering. I am an extremely "black and white" thinker.

Girlfriend gets emotional and claims that it's my fault.

Me: "you are in control of your own emotions. I don't own them. You've always claimed and appeared to be a strong woman. Now, you seem to suggest that you are emotional hostage to me?"

Yes, I realize that with that sort of response , that I am engaging her in this sort of negative web. What would some of you suggest?



This is sort of a typical scenario.

When I bring up an area for instance: her being too late when coming over or something not major, but needs addressing, I have heard this one before.

"I can never get mad at you because you either correct your faults before hand or openly admit them before I even have a chance."

I'm not arrogant or anything, but I do pride myself on learning from past mistakes and 'improving myself' with each new encounter. I'm pretty sure that they can tell that I exude confidence because I like the core who I am an d how I've continued to develop.

Although many of these women (relationship speaking) seem to be into me, it's kind of weird because they also seem to get a charge out of any blunder I may make. And... that's okay, I guess... but I'm wondering about something.

If we see a pattern with too many women, then we can say "dumb broad" and continue as we are or think.. Hmmm, am I projecting something to elicit this type of behavior?

It's not as though I want to change who I am, but tweaking our image when needed can prove to reap positive benefits.

Any take on this? Thanks!

 

[scrouds]

When a girl says emotional and claims its my fault, I take full and complete responsibility. I'm damn sexy, and women can't help themselves when they fall all over me. Sometimes I wink and nod. Sometimes I flex my biceps and kiss them. Maybe sometimes I just say "guilty". They will laugh it off and get over it.

These women do this because they have a great internal struggle. They were brought up in a society being told they need to be strong, independent women. Class A cunnts. Instead they find themselves falling for you, yielding to their natural instincts as a woman. And while these natural instincts are strong, the hamster can't spin fast enough reconcile their behaviour with how they see themselves as a SIW.

Therefore I just laugh it off. Pay it no heed. I don't get involved logically in the macinations of the hamster trying to reconcile its perdicaments. What works for me is a mixture of humor and macho bravado. Don't have to be that way, just don't treat it like a serious complaint or serious issue.

 

[Black Widow Void]

scrouds, thanks for the input. Taking things too literal is something I've know for a while that I could work on. I appreciate your post!

 

[scrouds]

Its one of those things you will learn with practice. If you're the analystical type like me, learn the "system of emotion". When you can make logical sense of emotial and attraction triggers, everything will fall into place in your highly logically oriented brain.

 

[Aaron B]

i've been able to show every "logical thinker" i've ever worked with numerous instances where he incorrectly applied logic in his interactions with women

as an aside, in my experience having logical conversations with women almost always leads to negative consequences for a man

as a logical thinker, you are probably "married" to your viewpoint

human thought and emotion is dynamic, not static