Needing some encouragement. Dumped my ex for another girl...

[gimmeyofonenumba]

It's been about 6 months since I dumped my ltr of 3 yrs for a girl I fell head over heels for. Long story short that girl has gone back to her ex. I'm doing well getting over her, but not so much my ex. When I cut ties with my ex I was there to comfort her,talk to her,etc. Part of it was cause I felt guilty, but also because I feared she would do something crazy. I encouraged her to move on and find another guy, and she has. I had my ex wrapped around my finger, It's rare to find a girl like her that is so loving and caring. Simply said I made a mistake. My ex found a guy she's been with for a few months. I cannot sleep the past few nights, she went out and did things like get a boob job, tan,etc. on top of her personality she is like a 10 now and I never would've dumped her for a girl that was hotter(also has a boob job). Im now playing the role of a crazy ex as she ignores me completely. Im asking her for closure, and the comfort I provided when she was looney from the breakup. I really want to try and get her back, Im positive she still has some feelings, just last month she was in tears on the phone with me. I know this is afc, I just need some advice. Thanks. EDIT: I should also add the tough part about all this is we agreed to mutually date each other, but as soon as she found her guy she wants me out of her life

 

[Jaylan]

dude you screwed up. You wanted the new girl and only want the ex because the new girl played you so now you have regrets. Just keep it moving and find new girls bro to get your mind off of it. Thats all I can tell you.

And you say "but as soon as she found her guy she wants me out of her life". Well you did it first, and itd be hard for her to trust you again after she gave you three years and you broke her heart. Just being real. Did you tell her it was kus u wanted to date other people?

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Ya man, im realizing i screwed up. She was doing anything, seducing me,etc. to try and get me back. She should be thankful I didnt sleep with her when she was trying everything. But to answer your question, yes I told her I wanted to see other people, and I would always care for her. She thought it was a good idea too. Im far higher value than the other guy, nothing against him. But I guess she came out on the winning end. I've never regretted something so much in my life. But time heals all wounds, so i'll keep on truckin

 

[Londonman09]

I went through exact same f'n situation. My best advice... make peace with yourself and move on. You left her for a reason.... and the panic of this new girl leaving has made you blind to that. No matter how much you chase, beg, embarrase yourself in her name... she aint coming back. In,fact the more pathetic you act.. the better she feels about not coming,back!!! IF you insist on being tool (like I was) .. act cool, better yourself, go to the gym, meet and date new people...and all of a sudden you,realize she aint that special.. an the world is full of beautiful women. I've been exactly where you are... and do yourself a favor... dont chase her! You made a choice...