needing reasons why she's not interested anymore

[drift king]

i've gone on a lot of dates the past year and they've all but one ended in rejection and the one that went well a few days later was over too.

just last week i went out with this girl and we seemed to be having a great time, but we were out with each other for too long and then she suddenly announces to me 'i dont want you to think i dont like you but can we go? i'm really tired' this was already almost midnight at the time and she was up since 7am.. i thought if she wasn't into me she wouldn't even said the 1st part..

i tried touching base with her this weekend and she just ignores me and i dont know why..

i know i have a tendency to be too full on but it's like i can't improve till i find out why these girls aren't speaking to me anymore.. is there no way to find this stuff out without literally confronting them?

 

[Fallen]

Hard to tell. Either you come on too strong or too weak?

Do you try to close? Or did you just "go out"? What did the two of you do? Talk? Dance? Drink? What did you talk about?

Is everything else alright? What does your best friend tell you, when you ask him about that particular problem? Do you have any obvious issues, that you are maybe not aware of?


I myself do quite alright on the dates except that i never close because i am a big pu$$y to begin with and over time, after date 100 or so, the girls lose interest and when i finally realize that they now go out with other guys, i walk away like a dumb a$$. At least there's no drama involved. Just me chickening out again. ( I'm working on that particular problem )

If a girl doesn't jump me and takes action, nothing happens.

 

[drift king]

it's more that i've been on like 30-40 dates the past year and they all seem to go the same way.. for me to improve i need to know what i did wrong but because i never get an answer out of them i have to figure it out myself and that makes me overanalyze. the problem is i get really annoyed that they're ignoring me that i end up ruining everything by calling again and then sending a message telling them off.. which basically prevents me from getting the original reason why cos they just think 'well hes just being full on and clingy so forget him' but that isn't the original reason why she's ignoring my calls.

i need to learn to only call once and if she doesn't respond then call once more a week later then delete the number cos when i get annoyed like this i overreact just to alleviate my anxiety. i think also it's hard to stay confident if you've been rejected 30-40 times on dates.. it makes think on them ok what am i going to do to mess this up?

 

[Fallen]

A little more detailed info on how a typical date went would be good.

At least you understand that you ruin everything by calling, texting over and over and "telling them off" ( what for? ) What do you mean, you can't get an answer from them? Asking what they don't or didn't like about you? Bro, that's not a good thing to ask.

What do you talk about on dates? What do you do? What does she do? Where do you meet? Where do you go?

Sometimes I take rejections hard too, but they never see me sweat, because i never get angry or frustrated around girls.

 

[DonGorgon]

Happens to all of us... women are flaky and can decide to go for some other dude at anytime... ONe each date you go one try and improve your player game over the last date .. i have found that setting goals helps like to kiss or f close

Women have many options so they have little patience with anything but exactly what they want in a date..

Oh an most women love to communicate using hints ... so .. if she leaves suddenly then you are out .. if she ignores you after you are out ... Women will make sure you know when you are in so any doubt usually means you are out,...