Need your opinion on what to text her

[ja129]

quick recap of the situation:

gorgeous girl in my spin class came up to me after a session. took a few seconds to believe that it was actually happening!

we got a protein shake after and chatted for a bit. i was nervous and awkward and doing all the non-smooth things that I shouldnt have. but I asked her out, she said yes and gave me her number. called her yesterday and she said she was driving so cant talk and would call back. hasnt yet and i dont expect her to



now i know that just because she gave me her number doesnt mean she wants to see me. but she did give me her number..



so either

- she wants me to chase

- or my awkwardness turned her off and she's not interested but gave the number anyway. if so i dont want to bother her



i dont want to call her again and appear needy or desperate. so i was thinking of texting her. if shes not interested she can ignore it

something like "already playing hard to get? risky move, you might lose me forever.."

suggestions, advice?

 

[dork!]

You already showed her you were nervous and awkward. I think its wise to not give her a ****y text. Cuz she will see right trough your game. Maybe you should think of something funny or none threatning line. Send a funny pic or video and see if she reply's to that. Remember she came up to you first. My 2 cents..

 

[ja129]

def possible she could see that text as a play.

im no master don juan, but im ok connecting with girls. that awkward nervousness was an off day, not sure what happened there.

my friend suggested the ****y approach. her logic is that if she's not interested it could shock her a bit, get her intrigued. she could call me on it/bust my chops/etc. give me something to work with. and change the tone to sexy funny immediately

the risk with non-threatening funny is its tough to quickly move to sexy funny. then we become text buddies or I play the chase game until she gets bored. you could be right but i want to either move this forward quickly or just move on so im going to try ****y.

ideas on what I could say in the text?

 

[ja129]

thanks Mauser. I forgot to mention that was my last day at that gym! i wont be bumping into her anymore


very true about adding orbiters. Ive been there before. too many times. I dont judge women for doing that, its easy to abuse that power when you have it.

but they only have as much power over us as we give them.. thats why now I dont let things drag on unproductively for too long.

any other girl I wouldnt be getting so worked up over this I would just accept my failure to hook her when i got the opportunity. but this girl is so hot... i googled her and found out that she's a professional cheerleader.. its so tough to walk away lol! and yes, she has a great personality, very intelligent and we def did connect. the signs were there, twirling the hair, touching my arm etc.

if the equation doesnt get to win win after the next contact then i'll cut my losses

i figure a text is about all i can try at this point. would really appreciate ideas for it. or anything else?

 

[dork!]

def possible she could see that text as a play.

im no master don juan, but im ok connecting with girls. that awkward nervousness was an off day, not sure what happened there.

my friend suggested the ****y approach. her logic is that if she's not interested it could shock her a bit, get her intrigued. she could call me on it/bust my chops/etc. give me something to work with. and change the tone to sexy funny immediately

the risk with non-threatening funny is its tough to quickly move to sexy funny. then we become text buddies or I play the chase game until she gets bored. you could be right but i want to either move this forward quickly or just move on so im going to try ****y.

ideas on what I could say in the text?

It was your off day cuz as you stated in your first post you couldnt believe this girl approuched you. If you want to send a ****y/sextext i would not think that line is ****y enough. This girl probably wont chase you or else she would have contacted you by now. So.. I would send something along the line of "i dreamed about your a$$ last night" and see how she reply's to that. See if she wants to know more about it or just blows you out. In the text above i think she would think something like "oh really.. I got 10 more waiting in line" also i think Mauser has a point although if you are in awkward mode it might come off creepy to remind her that she didnt do something you need/wanted from her. If she ignores you just stay nice to her when you see her, but dont engage. Keep diong your own thing. Maybe talk to some other girls and let her come to you again.

 

[ja129]

yeah i was probably caught off guard, lesson learned : always be ready!

in fact the most amazing women ive ever met was when i least expected it, not when i was on the prowl.

thanks for the advice guys, i'll let you know what happens.