anyway, i met this girl like a month ago and we have been talking back and forth, nothing solid yet but we kinda broke the ice this evening before i went home from work. anyway, she has told me about some guy that she used to talk to. she told this guy she didnt want anything serious and just wanted to be friends and that guys tell her that she is girlfriend material. anyway this guy wanted her more than a friend. so she said that they stopped talking and i asked why. she said that the guy would tell her he cared about her but then wouldn't show it and this was a problem to her. so the way they stopped talking was they would call each other less and less each time and text less and less each time, until there was no more contact. that's how it ended. was this guy acting like a DJ or what?
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909pua said:anyway, i met this girl like a month ago and we have been talking back and forth, nothing solid yet but we kinda broke the ice this evening before i went home from work. anyway, she has told me about some guy that she used to talk to. she told this guy she didnt want anything serious and just wanted to be friends and that guys tell her that she is girlfriend material. anyway this guy wanted her more than a friend. so she said that they stopped talking and i asked why. she said that the guy would tell her he cared about her but then wouldn't show it and this was a problem to her. so the way they stopped talking was they would call each other less and less each time and text less and less each time, until there was no more contact. that's how it ended. was this guy acting like a DJ or what?
Yah that's straight up player game. You tell em what they want to hear, string them along for awhile and then ease em out the door.
Now here is where you messed up, having this conversation. A player would have cut that convo short, made her go do something (action oriented), taken her somewhere, or changed the subject to something light and funny. You are on the road to the friendzone if you keep that up.
ok anyway, today we chopped it up more. she has a ring on her hand. i asked her what it was for. she said she was engaged with some 28 yr old dude. she's only 20 btw. anyway we just kept choppin it up. to make it short, i asked her what she was doing tonight. she said after work, which was 10 pm, she was gonna go out with her girlfriends to watch a movie. i said cool. then i went home and ended the conversation after 10 min. around 940 pm tonight, i called her work and talked to her again(i never called her)..when she answered, she knew it was me immediately......i was bored so i called her. so then i said "hi, how are you doing, i was bored so i called you blah blah blah.............................so you're about to head out and go to the movies?" she said yeah. then she says "if i wasnt gonna be with my girlfriends tonight, i would have invited you". i said "nah its cool you dont have to". she said "dang...gosh....".....i said "nah its cool, i mean when your free i dont wanna encroach in your busy schedule" then we had a lil more small talk and then i ended the convo and ended the call. am i in or what? first she says she's engaged, now she says she would have invited me out to go with her if she didnt' have a night out with her girlfriends..
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your her new girlfriend...better hope fer fiance doesn't beat your ass when he finds out you have lustfull thoughts of his soon to be wife...maybe she'lll throw a strap on and her and her fiance can get together and run a train on you...909pua said:ok anyway, today we chopped it up more. she has a ring on her hand. i asked her what it was for. she said she was engaged with some 28 yr old dude. she's only 20 btw. anyway we just kept choppin it up. to make it short, i asked her what she was doing tonight. she said after work, which was 10 pm, she was gonna go out with her girlfriends to watch a movie. i said cool. then i went home and ended the conversation after 10 min. around 940 pm tonight, i called her work and talked to her again(i never called her)..when she answered, she knew it was me immediately......i was bored so i called her. so then i said "hi, how are you doing, i was bored so i called you blah blah blah.............................so you're about to head out and go to the movies?" she said yeah. then she says "if i wasnt gonna be with my girlfriends tonight, i would have invited you". i said "nah its cool you dont have to". she said "dang...gosh....".....i said "nah its cool, i mean when your free i dont wanna encroach in your busy schedule" then we had a lil more small talk and then i ended the convo and ended the call. am i in or what? first she says she's engaged, now she says she would have invited me out to go with her if she didnt' have a night out with her girlfriends..
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relax a bit, het her call/text you. if she does, shes open. meanwhile spin plates, and even better... let her see you out with a HB8 (even just a friend)
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Yep, nothing puts women in their place like seeing you with other (hot) women.
actually this girl, about a month ago, i asked for her number and she said NO...and all of a sudden now she starts talking to me cause i showed her that me getting rejected by her had no effect on me. so in the end, i still dont have her PERSONAL number.
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I LIKE THIS.909pua said:actually this girl, about a month ago, i asked for her number and she said NO...and all of a sudden now she starts talking to me cause i showed her that me getting rejected by her had no effect on me.
This is EXACLTY what I've been trying to get some guys here to understand for what seems like the past 1000 years.
If you like a girl,ASK HER OUT,TELL HER YOU WANT TO SEE HER.
Her answer DOESN'T MATTER.
The point is to show yourself to her as a possible sexual interest.
I've been though this exact same thing before a few times. In fact,this is THE KEY to avoiding the friendzone.
ASK HER OUT.
By doing this from the getgo,you AUTOMATICALLY put yourself into the possible dating category...even if she turns you down.
Oh,by the way 909pua,I think your PM box is full.
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Ok, I need to ask here. What is your status exactly? In this thread your are talking about a chick that you might want to date but she's engaged. In another thread, you speak of a recently acquired girlfriend that sleeps over at her ex's house, and in yet another thread you say you have a wife that you are about to divorce. What gives? Are you super pimp or something, having a wife, gf, and looking for fb's on the side? Im not judging you or anything, Im just wondering what your story is.
I thought I was the only one to notice that? But by the way he writes and the questions he's asking (not that there's anything wrong with asking questions) I somehow doubt he being truthful (it's almost as if 3 different people are posting under this name). I sense a possible troll here.horaholic said:Ok, I need to ask here. What is your status exactly? In this thread your are talking about a chick that you might want to date but she's engaged. In another thread, you speak of a recently acquired girlfriend that sleeps over at her ex's house, and in yet another thread you say you have a wife that you are about to divorce. What gives? Are you super pimp or something, having a wife, gf, and looking for fb's on the side? Im not judging you or anything, Im just wondering what your story is.
Kal0051 said:I sense a possible troll here.
ok here is the deal. i dont know why some guys in here like to be negative and i dont really give a damn if you are being negative because you do all this behind a keyboard
im going thru a divorce, have a 6 month girl on the side, and talking to another one that i just met about a month ago. does that answer your questions?
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Igetit! said:Oh,by the way 909pua,I think your PM box is full.
ok i emptied it. thanks for letting me know
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ok cool dont worry about it. anyway, i talked to that girl today again today. i asked for her number again, guess what she said, she said no, i can't give it out, she will get in trouble since she works in security. and also she said she's busy and hardly has time to go out bcuz of school (i think i kinda fvked up though cause i hesitated when i asked for her number, she picked that up really quick). anyway, i just kinda dropped it and left. ahhhhhhh btches just like to play games dont they. i dont really care, i just got some a few hours ago from my side girlfriend after i talked to her. met my side plate at a local park and guess what, i was a snatch licker. after i licked some snatch, i proceeded to visit another HB9 at her job around 7 pm .... but we are just friends, i just decided to stop by and say hi. man life is good. damn!