Need your advice on next step in dating?

[picard]

I need your advise everyone. I went out on movie date with this cute woman on the weekend. I want to invite her to dinner at fancy restaurant nextweek.

How do I proceed in the relationship after the dinner date? I am running of excuses to ask a woman out on a date??

 

[TheTrimReaper]

Don't stress over this. It's really easy.

Here's what I've done before:
Date one-Meet at Ice Cream Parlor(in case I want to eject)
Date two-pick her up and take her to a movie(maybe a snack after, but something really cheap)
Date three-Bowling or a Ghost tour( I can walk her on one from my house(I love this one) but you have to live where I live for it.)

Other dates:
dinner at your place
massage at your place
take a night walk with flashlights
picnic (daytime is nice, night is pretty cool too)

I wouldn't take her to a fancy restaurant until she has earned it.

Don't spend too much money on your dates. And don't worry about where you are going to take her... alright? What you have to worry about is making her feel the emotions you want her to feel, and that's up to you, not the place so much.

Chicks don't like to see you dropping a lot of cash because they think you are trying to buy something from them... like you are going to expect something after you dropped some cash on them. They'll be more comfortable with this. Don't worry about if some broad thinks you are cheap. That's her problem, and if she judges you for that, then you didn't need her simple person anyways. You want to have fun and she should too.

Good luck

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What exactly do you want to achieve with this woman. FYI, you're heading down the LJBF track.

 

[Tallerguy]

I have taken Ross Jefferies advice on this one. I dont like going on dates as normal guys go on dates. I have gone for coffee with a chick and then lead her around town doing errands. She can see I am busy and she has to work hard to spend time with me.

If you keep it casual and invite the chick along it seems alot more natrual.

"I am heading to town in an hour or so, I am going to starbucks for a coffee if you want to join me"

or

"I am in "your hometown" later this afternoon, and have time for a drink. Where is good for a drink this time of week?"

 

[Chrispy]

Francisco, what makes you say it's headed towards the LJBF route? Is it the 'fancy dinner' part?

Picard, I think you should try to avoid the nice dinner thing - she may think you're trying to 'buy' her even though you're not.

Keep it casual and light. Anything serious will definitely put it in the LJBF track. Also, make sure you have other options so you don't get chumpy!

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by picard
I need your advise everyone. I went out on movie date with this cute woman on the weekend. I want to invite her to dinner at fancy restaurant nextweek.

How do I proceed in the relationship after the dinner date? I am running of excuses to ask a woman out on a date??

For date # 2 I normally invite the girl over to my place to watch a movie. Guaranteed make-out session... if not more

Other good dates would be to take her to the mall to get some christmas gifts. Tell her to try something on... make-out with her in the changeroom.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Chrispy
Francisco, what makes you say it's headed towards the LJBF route? Is it the 'fancy dinner' part?

Picard, I think you should try to avoid the nice dinner thing - she may think you're trying to 'buy' her even though you're not.

Keep it casual and light. Anything serious will definitely put it in the LJBF track. Also, make sure you have other options so you don't get chumpy!

Why did you ask if you already knew the answer?

I'm all for keeping it casual and light. Movies, dinner and the like should be kept for someone special, like someone you are actually committed to. Doing it at any other time does not really differentiate a guy from any other.

Any guy can take a woman to dinner and a movie, it takes no real talent or effort. Now talking for hours over coffee and biscotti takes real talent. Impress her with YOU and not what you do, buy or take her.

 

[The Anti Dr Phil]

I can't speak for the rest of you fellas, but I never, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER take women to movies on the first couple of dates. I think movies are the worst first or second date ideas known to man.

1. Movies are not interactive, and both parties spend the better part of the date paying attention to the big screen - not each other. You'd be much, much better of spending that time chatting over coffee, or drinks. Coffee contains caffeine, and drinks get you buzzed, so if the date goes well at that location, it just may continue somewhere else

2. When you leave the theatre, you feel fricken drained. Oft-times you don't want to do anything afterwards.

3. You cant set tempo. You're just sitting down, locked into your chairs the entire time. There is no synergy being created - no laughter, no verbal jousting, and no eye contact.

You fellas had better start thinking outside of the box, in order to seperate yourselves from the pack, by getting creative with your dating ideas. If she's single, she's probably been on 50 movie and dinner dates in the past two years. Who want's more of the same. She'll take it of course, but I bet she'd prefer something more creative/interactive

Just a few of my many first date ideas: In depth conversation over coffee or drinks; a Museum exhibit opening; Salsa or Tango lessons....anything that sparks synergy...either of the verbal, spiritual, or physical persuasion. You want a women to feel as if she "gained" something valuable by being in your presence. Movies can't give her that.


Personally, I don't take women to movies until after I've slept with them.