"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ok, ill try to make this short.
yesterday me ant this girl were on a second date, while watching the movie i used kino, everything went great, she responded, we holded hands etc. yet i didnt try to kiss her there, waiting for a kiss close.
when we got to her place, we were sitting in my car, i kissed her good bye, she seemed to enjoy it very much, i heard how she was breathing, touching me. we kissed for quite a while, then we stopped. and she asked me a question which i cannot understand. it was dark, she wasnt looking directly at me, but it seemed like she was smiling. actually, she definitely was. anyways, she said 'why did you kiss me'. well we talked for a bit and i was wondering why she asked this question, but she didnt tell me that. we started kissing again, kissed for a while and a bit later she went home. today i asked the same question, why did she ask me about that kiss yesterday and she only said it didnt matter. i said it matters to me, and ~6hours has passed, she didnt reply. she might be busy right now shooting a film, not sure. so i dunno what to do. should i write to her something right now or should i wait for her to reply? i definitely know she likes me, it was actually her who iniciated both dates. she didnt ask me out directly, but.. :) ya know..
anyways, any advice? what to write, how to act?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i think it was one of those type of questions thats asking for a compliment..
i think she wanted you to say something like "cuz you are so beautiful, i couldnt resist".....


dont give it too much thought...
 
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well yeah i thought this was one of the possibilities too.. just wasnt sure. amm, should i ask her 'did u want me to reply 'because your so beautiful tonight'' or should i simply forget about that question?
 

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oh gawd don't go back and ask her if she wanted you to reply with "because you're so beautiful".

if i were you, i wouldn't give this question another thought. i would work on setting up another date and take things from there. if she doesn't bring it up, then you shouldn't bring it up.
 

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omg please do not send her a message saying "did u only ask me that question last night so i would respond with blah blah blah.. dont worry about it man. seems like u did really well.. good luck bro
 
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okey, so ive got one more question for you guys. everything is going great with this girl, yesterday we met for like 4th or 5th time, we held hands, kissed whenever we felt like kissin. acted almost like a couple. but apparantly she hasnt forgotten her ex, even though SHE dumped him, she is still thinking about him. about a month has passed since she did that. she saw picture of him yesterday with another girl, came to me complaining blah blah, i tried not to comfort her too much, not to look like a friend more than a bf. so this was before we met yesterday eve. as i said, everything went great when we were together. today i turn on my pc, and her skype additional info says some words i saw he posted in her forum... omg dunno what to do! i suppose i have 2 choices: to make her forget him and fall in love with me ORRRR say its all over between us... any advice?
 

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she wants him because she cant have him anymore because hes with someone else. people want what they cant have. because you pay attention to her a lot she may think she has you now, but if you dangle just a bit in front of her she'll come after you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Stop being so nice to her. I fear you are going into nice guy mode since you have a good thing going. If you go into nice guy mode she probably will start remembering the jerk she dumped. This is the thing about girls, the nicer you treat em the less attractive you become to them.

When she came complaining about seing a picture of him with another girl that was your chance of being C&F about the situation "so he's still alive, maybe ill invite him over to cook us dinner" "i'm going to hire him as a guard, so he can guard the door of our room so nobody can disturb us while we make sweet, passionate love to the tunes of barry manilow from night to day"
 

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SeekingForGreater said:
okey, so ive got one more question for you guys. everything is going great with this girl, yesterday we met for like 4th or 5th time, we held hands, kissed whenever we felt like kissin. acted almost like a couple. but apparantly she hasnt forgotten her ex, even though SHE dumped him, she is still thinking about him. about a month has passed since she did that. she saw picture of him yesterday with another girl, came to me complaining blah blah, i tried not to comfort her too much, not to look like a friend more than a bf. so this was before we met yesterday eve. as i said, everything went great when we were together. today i turn on my pc, and her skype additional info says some words i saw he posted in her forum... omg dunno what to do! i suppose i have 2 choices: to make her forget him and fall in love with me ORRRR say its all over between us... any advice?
if she's still hung up over her ex, don't get emotionally close w/ her. you're probably gonna end up hurting yourself. and you're never gonna be able to make her forget him and fall in love with you if she doesn't want to - no guy is that powerful. just have fun and don't take her too seriously - she's obviously not girlfriend material right now

and w/ the question, she was probably really happy you kissed her and fishing for you to vocalize reciprocation. it's because of something you did right, not wrong, so don't get all insecure about it
 
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i tried not to be so nice to her, somehow it didnt work well. maybe im not good at it, cause im a nice type of guy.. thats just who i am.

i wish i had thought of those jokes ;) nice man!

and rite now i saw her profile on web, the main picture is of her and him! im just a second away from NEEEXT... what do i do?? what do i tell her??
 

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SeekingForGreater said:
i tried not to be so nice to her, somehow it didnt work well. maybe im not good at it, cause im a nice type of guy.. thats just who i am.

i wish i had thought of those jokes ;) nice man!

and rite now i saw her profile on web, the main picture is of her and him! im just a second away from NEEEXT... what do i do?? what do i tell her??
It is not about being "nice," but more about not being available to her so easily. She is remembering the ex because girls want men they can't have (like someone else said) so why not you become another man she can't have? not totally since you are her bf but try not to be available for her too much, in other words be a man that she feels she doesn't control. Next time she calls you or asks you to meet her for your regular date night or whatever, tell her you'll be busy and won't be able to do anything that day. Next time she calls don't answer for that whole day, when she asks the next day why you didn't answer just pretend it didn't happen or had to do somethinng and change the conversation.

You need to use every little trick in the book. Start teasing her more often and use a neg or 2 as well.
 
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ok, so its morning in where i live right now, do i send her a messasge saying good morning or do i wait for her to do that? even though im not sure if she will... hey but who cares if she doesnt, rite?

hrrrr all those mind games... i effin hate em! :)
 

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SeekingForGreater said:
ok, so its morning in where i live right now, do i send her a messasge saying good morning or do i wait for her to do that? even though im not sure if she will... hey but who cares if she doesnt, rite?

hrrrr all those mind games... i effin hate em! :)
You send her good morning messages?? what the [censored] is wrong with you??? no wonder you have girlfriend problems!
 
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thats the most common thing from where i am. everybody does that.. yeah i know it might look strange in ur country, but not here. trust me... ok anyways, i got your point :)
 

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SeekingForGreater said:
thats the most common thing from where i am. everybody does that.. yeah i know it might look strange in ur country, but not here. trust me... ok anyways, i got your point :)
but the mind of girls are mostly the same and they can all smell a nice guy from a mile away! no matter what country they are from! I would do that if i were in your country too I bet...just not to my girlfriend :D

stop sending her good morning messages, in fact stop calling her, let her call you from now on. Stop being so available to her. I suggest you try canceling a date/meeting so she starts getting the image in her mind that you are not an easily available guy. Use the bf jokes I gave you any chance the subject comes up so you show confidence in yourself and that you are better than her ex (and that the subject doesnt bother you)

remember that she is testing you. When she went up to you to complain about her ex and you comforted her that was a test which you failed by actually acknowledging the problem. Instead of huggin her and holding her hand like a love sick puppy telling her "it's alright" you should have been like "can he drive trains? i want him driving our train so that I don't have to worry about that as im making love to you on a boxcar going 60 miles an hour." After that line change the subject and walk her to another place like if nothing happened.
 
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