Need you guys's input on this..

[Frenchconnection]

Hi All, new here and newb
amazing tips you're giving out, thank you in advance for the wonderful times I going to have with girls!:crazy:

One thing I do want to ask and no it's not a cry for pitty but I want your opinions.

A year ago I was cheated on by my live in gf of 4 years, that same time period, my mom passed away, lost my job and anything else you can think of (including the kitchen sink!).

Fast forward today, I've made some great progress in getting my life back together. But one thing that I cannot easily get over is that due to my ex screwing me over financially (yes I know I f.. up by living with her) I had to move back to my dad's house.

I'm 33 living in Southern Cali and don't make much now because I took a job for the experience.

I do have a good solid plan to enable me to move out and reach my ideal financial goal soon. However meanwhile, I have short sold and self sabotage myself numerously in meeting girls because of me living at home.

I know it's temporary but it's hard to not think about it when I'm out meeting chicks.
The embarrassement is too great for me, even before I take the first step in approaching a girl I think about my situation and talk myself out of meeting the girl.

What do you think I should tell myself or change about my perception?



Your input is greatly appreciated!

 

[Monkey]

If a girl cannot accept your situation, shes not worth it anyway.

 

[bachelor]

Get over the ex girlfriend and the financial stuff. Never let a girl get involved with your finances. You don't really need to discuss it with them. As far as living at home, it's all on how you present it. Be real with them about it and if they don't accept it move on...

 

[Mr.Positive]

Frenchconnection, family is very important. Sorry to hear about your loss. Think of it this way... you are living with your dad right now for support (not financial) because your mom passed away.

That says a lot about you, your values, and your integrity. Women will eat that up...be careful out there! Good luck!

 

[vitor]

Hmm this is a tough one because Women Prequalify you the same banks do when you want a loan. Where are you working now, do you have a degree, student loans etc? Is your dad married, divoriced, is your mom around. What im trying to do is create a little white lie or two that makes your situation sound better than it really is.

IE, My mom passed away and my father was despressed and his doctor recomeneded I move in with him to help him cope. Or I'm busting my ass to pay off these student loans and decided to move back in with my father instead of further extending myself finiacilly.

Turn these negs into postives, the right girl is out there.... Just dont hide it then Bam she is like you live at home with your dad.

Is your dad cool, like if you had a chick over would he go up stairs or is he going to be chilling in his boxers watching tv while your making your moves?

 

[Frenchconnection]

Thanks for the great advice guys!

Yeah I've learned so much from these challenging events. I have to admint, many times I just felt like crawling under a rock.

But I just didn't want to end up the victim of life's challenges. I do have a degree and a good job at this moment but yearn for more, much more!

My dad seperated from my mom a long time ago and remarried. So I had to bear the loss somewhat alone.

My living arrangements now are purely functional as I can't really "kick it" there.

Finding this site has really given me a "boost" as I had to re evulate every single aspect of my life including meeting girls.

I'm reading the Weapons of Mass destruction, great reading!

Edit - one smart thing I did was not to share any financial obligations with my ex. I just got screwed cause I was paying for a lot of things. But I got her to make a commitment to pay me off

 

[bigjohnson]

Get out when you can, until then live with it, as posted above you can try to make it a positive but at your age women will see "living at parents house" as a huge failure.

In reality it IS a huge failure, but you've accepted that and are taking steps to dig back out. Good for you, but UNTIL you are dug out it's just talk. Women know this just as well as anyone else does.

Good luck and kudos on noting your mistake and fixing it.

Finally, a 2nd vote for the "women don't belong in your checkbook" vote. Ever.

 

[vitor]

If you are Foregin living at home is fine though...

 

[bigjohnson]

Where is it OK to live at home in your 30s? That's just odd.....