"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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need urgent help bros, decisions decisions

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Hey guys

I just started college but now I have to make a decision in leaving or staying. smh

I am getting hired to work in the city of Berkely witch is good pay. I will be making close to 60k a year.

The career I wanted to pursue was Human Resources.

Damn wtf should I do. What would you guys recommend? :( Education or get the job?:confused: :confused:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MidnightCity said:
education 1000%

get those degrees.

they are just pieces of papers but unless you want to do labor or limit your earning potential for a few quick bucks, you're gonna need them.

some say "college is not for everyone" or "you dont need college to succeed"

which can be true for some people but unless you have great connections or you fill a specific niche, you're gonna need to go like any normal person.

take it from someone who has high earning potential but cant capitalize on it because i dropped out.
well i do have connections in the job there, my uncle works there and my cousin is one of the top guys in-charge there.

Ill be earning about 5 grand per month witch is not bad at all plus overtime.

I dont mined working labor since ive being working construction jobs my whole life plus they offer really good benefits
 

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At first glance, I would be tempted to suggest the job. A trade that pays overtime can be better than a salary job that makes you work for free after 40 hours.

But even that's not the most important thing. Forgetting about money and hours, what will make you more happy?

Some guys are happier in the office in a while collar job. Others have to be in the field working with their hands.

You are going to be working for a long time. Enjoying what you do is #1.
 

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Mike32ct said:
At first glance, I would be tempted to suggest the job. A trade that pays overtime can be better than a salary job that makes you work for free after 40 hours.

But even that's not the most important thing. Forgetting about money and hours, what will make you more happy?

Some guys are happier in the office in a while collar job. Others have to be in the field working with their hands.

You are going to be working for a long time. Enjoying what you do is #1.
very true bro i will think this thoroughly
 

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Wait so you have an opportunity to make almost $60k WITHOUT going to college? And I'm assuming you are student debt-free right now?

College is a massive waste of money, and this is coming from someone who has multiple degrees. Unless you are getting into a STEM-type field with a direct line to a job, all you will come out with is a near-useless bachelor's degree like everyone else and a lot of debt. For a job paying you about the same (if not less) than you could be making now.

Look at it this way: if you get into this job for a few years and decide you want to move up into management, then you can reconsider going to college if it's necessary. The city will probably pay for at least part of your tuition and you could do it part-time. This is a far better option than borrowing tons of money now, and hoping you will find a job later to pay off your $40-60k in debt. That debt does not go away.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Agree with colossus, espi and pairplusroyalflush, if all you were going for is to get into HR, well why? (not meaning to diss on anyone here in that field). You can do both as others suggest.

Unless you are enrolled at a top school, one is just as good as another. Do the 60k job and take night classes towards the degree. That going to school fulltime for the traditional 4 year degree is necessary to get the paper in any old thing is a lie perpetuated by the gov/edu industry to get your money faster. Don't buy into it. To repeat, if you are in a top STEM program at a top school, stay and power through, suffer the opportunity cost. If not, part time is the best way IMO. Good luck.
 

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Or you can attend school part-time. Definitely get that degree. You will thank yourself later down the road unless you planned on maintaining the position for the rest of your life and you are guaranteed to keep it for as long as you want.
 

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Get the degree. Can you do it part time while working?
 

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MidnightCity said:
ideally he should do both. but its always easier said than done. if you have a regular 9-5 you can tell yourself you can do it but when it comes down to it you will burn yourself out within 2 months .
True. Full time work and part time school is tough. It's doable but very draining.

If you must take night classes, do them in person if at all possible and your schedule permits it. Online classes absolutely suck BALLZ. You basically end up just teaching yourself.
 

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Find out if this job has tuition reimbursement.

It's 60K, but is it 60K in California? It's still a good starting point but 60K in Cali is not the same as 60K in Arizona.

If your job is willing to pay for you to study part time. Go for it.
What were you going to go to school for? You don't want to end up with 100K+ in student loan debt as well and then regret the job opportunity.

I did my Master's while working full-time. It can be done.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I would definitely take the job.

If you want a college degree, go to night school and get it while working. Too many young folks today graduate with degrees and find a hard time getting a job...and, with massive college debt.

I paid for my degree delivering pizzas and pumping gas. You can't pay for a degree that way anymore. It's all about going into debt to get it.

I should add, Berkeley is an awesome city and you will enjoy living there. Hope you decide to take the job. It sounds great.
 

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Get the job idiot!


You have connections there, the choice is simple. Dumber guy with connections always gets paid more than smarter idiot without connections. Don't pass up this opportunity.
 

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Got the job
32/hour + overtime
Overtime = 48/hour

Working 50-52 hours/week

Getting payed about 1400/week

I only pay 200 of rent each month cuz I still live with parents
So im gonna try and save about 20, 000 in the next 12 months to buy a house

Going to be investing and saving my money wisely.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mike32ct said:
Very good wages and PAID overtime.

Solid experience right away without student loan debt.

Sounds great. Congrats!
hell yeah bro and i get nice benefits, plus 2 weeks of paid vacation a year
 
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