need ur expert advice.

[Deadly_Assassin]

I want to know someone who has been in this situation before and how it turned out. Also you experienced guys out, I want to know how to handle this little *****!!!

I have had oneitis for this girl for nearly a year. She seemed like a missed opportunity. It also seemed that after she heard about me and some other girl ( all this happened last year ) she started dating this other guy. The problem was she always said she would only date christians and bla bla bla. But this guy was a non-christian.

Start of this year I came to know about it and I kinda asked the girl if it was true. She said yep and went into telling me how it happened and why she thought it was ok. Of course I was hurt but I didnt show it at that time. She told me it was just temporary and that she would break up with him sooner or later. She said the relationship was a like a lesson to help her learn something. ( They never hardly ever held hands, let alone kissing).

As time went on I grew impatient. Yes I am an ******* I know. I confronted her about her relationship again. The bf sent me an email explaining how he was actually a christian and that I should leave the girl alone and bla bla bla. I then started having debates with bf because I am a christian and he is a bahai. I told the girl off a few times as well.

This went on for a while and then I decided I had enuf and I booked my tickets for a holiday to Auz. Just before I went to Auz I told the girl how I felt about her. She said she was sorry to lead me on and she only liked me as a friend. I told her actions spoke louder than words then she said she had moved on and kinda changed from back then. I said I didnt mind her and her bf going out as long as they didnt call it a christian relationship. I am a assassin of my own self at times.

So I went to Auz for 3 weeks. I kinda gave the whole christianity thing there because of some of the guys I stayed with. I just felt guilty that these guys were so kind to me and yet they would go to hell just because they did not believe. I kinda started questioning my faith and had a lot of doubts.

I also got with some girls there, had the time of my life. I came back to N.Z. to hear that this girl had left church. I texted her a couple of times but didnt get a reply so I left it.

I am mates with her mates so I heard about her and how she had broken up with her bf. It had happended just after I had left for Auz. Three months later ( last monday ) I emailed her saying I was sorry for my actions but it wasnt out of jealousy.

The only reason I emailed her was because she heard from my mate that I had also lost interest in church. The day after my mate had met her, her best friend rang me up ( she hasnt for several months ) and started asking how I was doing and why have I not being going to church. At first I couldnt understand how this best mate who doesnt keep in touch with anyone from my church got a hold of me not attending church.

When she emailed back to me, she fully had a go at me and saying how I wasted my time telling her what was right and wrong because she knew she was gonna break up with her bf and what right did I have to be judgemental and jealous. But she kept going out with him just to see how I would react. She said how she was shocked that I could get the message so wrong and assume that she liked me and bla bla bla.

Then she also said how she wanted to be left alone and didn't want to be mates again. She also said that she didnt want to give out any more information and that I shouldnt try.

Later on that same night she emailed me again saying why are people contacting her asking her whats wrong? and that have I told people about her email and why? Then she said if I wanted to know something I should approach her instead of asking other people.

I replied saying I didnt talk to anyone except for one person who backstabbed me and that I had nothing else to say except goodbye. She replied saying leave that person out of this as he has nothing to do with this, bye.

I want to drop this b1atch and move on. But for some reason I want to email her back. I wanna tell her if I didnt do all those she would have thought i didnt care. I wanna tell her to grow up and move on and why is she so angry for such a small thing especially when she is broken up with the bf.

But what do u guys think shes angry for? and why is she angry especially when she never liked me in the first place?

 

[italostud]

...you need some help...

and btw, that story was too hard to follow.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

yea I know... haha

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

okay the story is dat - she is pissed off because i told her off about her and her bf because I was jealous. She says in her email she doesnt wanna talk to me, and shes been thinking about this for a long time - 3months, then sends me another email saying why i am talking to other ppl about her email, why I cant I talk to her and about it instead.

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
okay the story is dat - she is pissed off because i told her off about her and her bf because I was jealous. She says in her email she doesnt wanna talk to me, and shes been thinking about this for a long time - 3months, then sends me another email saying why i am talking to other ppl about her email, why I cant I talk to her and about it instead.

Guy, it's really, really fycking simple. Cut off contact with her. Delete phone numbers/emails/whatever. Don't talk to her, forget her. If she calls you, don't answer.

I mean, really, how hard is this shyt? Do you need to be told to stay away from a girl whom A)You never had a relationship with, B)Is seeing other men, and C)Tells you she doesn't like you?

Stop before you get your ass thrown in jail for violating the restraining order that she most likely is filing with the local police right now.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

thanx, ur right i should fvcking get a move on

 

[aftershock]

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
thanx, ur right i should fvcking get a move on

Nice thinking mate.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

She is christian and wants a bad relationship ??!!!
I smell mind games too :nono:


NEXT !!


It's ok man you confused a bad women with a good women. Pick yourself up and move on. We all learn 1 way or another.

 

[DinoCassanova]

No offense man but I personally hate Christians. Not Catholics, or , like , mainstream Protestants even , the ones who just mind their own business about it or even better yet aren't very religious at all. But I'm talking about CHRISTIAN chicks. The hardcore "born again" types. I actually went several times to a "born-again" Christian church, if you want to call it a church, because I met some girl who was into that who was trying to win my soul over to Jesus. I personally was hoping at the time to just , you know, but she was an impossible person. All the guys and girls there were the same way; all they would talk about was religion. I mean it was actually to the point where these people met up for "bible studies" every Friday night ?? I told them I was non-denominational, had never even been baptized, because in general I know they don't like Roman Catholics and , myself having been born in Italy and all, even though I'm not "practicing" I am technically a born Catholic. But they were just like this chick you're talking about ; would only date other born-agains, other "Christians", etc etc. You will never get anywhere w/girls from that camp, IMHO. They're saving it for marriage. Period.

After a few of those meetings, or masses, whatever you want to call them , everybody standing up and screaming and hollering about Jesus during the service, speaking in "tongues", I was starting to wish that good old Emperor Nero back in the day in Roma had had a few more hungry lions and a larger arena, or better yet a couple of large arenas ; you know, cut the whole thing off right at the root. Don't bother with girls who inform you right off the bat they're "Christian". Catholic girls will get down, WASP girls will party, J.A.P. girls are freaky, everybody knows those basics, but "born-again" Christians, forget about it. You might as well try DJ'ing with devout Muslim chicks. IMHO at least........ ~Dino

 

[backbreaker]

believe it or not, all the **** I used to let my EX get away with.. the day she became a born again christan, I had to cut her loose...

I am an Atheist, that grew up in a southern baptist church.... Read the bible, ,I even played the piano at chruch... NOt much about relgion I don't know.

So one day her and I are talking about relgion, and I try explaining some things about the bible she didn't understand... I am an atheist, but i am all for you learning about your religion, and if I can help, great.

So she becomes a born again christan, and tells me we cant have sex until we are married (which isn't in the bible BTW... don't get me started) and tells me how I need jesus in my life... I broke up with her the next day. I can't and won't deal with them.


Oh, Next the broad.


Anyway, dude, you have 296 posts, and we need to tell you what to do? I would be embarassed to post something this ovbious... lol, she LIED to you about not dating christans, which I can honestly understand.. then she LIED to you abbout why she is dating this guy, who is a non christian, and then got mad when you called her on it.

No girl is so special, , execpt my little 5 year old sister, that they can't get *****slapped and told next.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

yea i have a lot of doubts about my faith. I go to an independent baptist. Some of the stuff I have seen happening at church - like the way the Pastor ran things for his own benefit and saying it was for God's glory and stuff really put me off. I still do believe in God and he has been quite real in my life. But I just feel that churches these days have become more of a social club.

With the girl, I honestly dont know what was up with me to chase after her so long and why was she so valuable in my eyes. In my email to her I told her I wasnt jealous and I guess she just wanted to rub it in my face that I was.

I have learnt a lot from this and yes its quite shameful that with 296 posts I still post crap up like this, haha.

 

[backbreaker]

i was just pullingyour chain BTW... better to ask and learn to to not ask and be ignorant.