need to know how i should handle my first love, on off forever(ICE ANGEL)

[metalrules]

Here goes,
I have been in contact with my 1st love on and off for 20 yrs. She was and always will be a cheater. I hung out w her all last summer, until I called her a ***** for borrowing cash from me and not paying me back. Actually that was my reason for getting mad when she started to ignore me again(didn't really care about the money).

She was living with a guy for 11 years and finally moved out. I pinged her after not talking to her for 4 months. She responded and we started talikng again(here and there).

I know this chick pretty good. She is the Don Juan of women! I'm tell'n ya.

My only mistake(i think). Was showing my anger when she used me.

Now when I talk to her, she always mentions her prospects/dates to me(trying to make me jealous?)

I admit I'm a little jealous, but will never show it!!

I just want her as a friend/FB. Hardest nut I have ever had to crack, but I just have to.

She always acts indifferent and aloof, like a pro.

Suggestions?

 

[Fuglydude]

Why are you beating yourself up over it??? This isn't complicated... you're just making it that way. She's obviously not that interested in you. Therefore, unless you're getting sex from her, just next her, stop talking to her, and do other girls.

Speaking from personal experience, I've always only seriously gone for girls that I knew were interested in me. If you're attractive, in elite shape w/ a great personality/vibe, there will be no shortage of girls that are interested in you, and some of them will be hot. This saves a ton of time and is great for those of us who are busy w/ career, school, hobbies, etc.

Seriously man, next her and stop talking to her. Use her for a FB, and nothing else. At this point, she's not your friend... she's using you for shiit.

 

[metalrules]

I was getting sex from her. Trying to get more.

 

[metalrules]

I think she wants me to chase her, but I just can't. I guess ignoring her is my only option?

 

[Fuglydude]

Like I said man... just have sex with her. I really dont' think she's that interested in you at this stage. If you wanna increase interest make yourself a better man. So either screw her or ignore.

 

[metalrules]

Thanks Fugly. I wanna screw her! Just hard to act cool when I know she is trying to push my buttons. Hot then cold n ****. She knows it.

 

[metalrules]

I must ad, I think she is interested in me and just testing me. I'm pretty good at the test thing, but, so is she.

 

[metalrules]

I guess what I'm asking is, how do I go about getting her IL back up now that we are talking again? Be scarse? Ignore her?

 

[DMSR76]

Just treat her like the tramp she's presented herself as, and everything else will fall into place. Don't overanalyze... demonstrate to the ***** what you want.

 

[DMSR76]

If you don't succeed, it doesn't sound as though it would be much of a loss anyway.

 

[metalrules]

lol, nice..

 

[metalrules]

And she always tells me she loves me. Mostly when she's drunk, sometimes sober. She drinks alot

 

[Johnnyventana]

And you can't nail her drunk? "She drinks alot." Put yourself in one of those situations and slowly build up the tension until you can tell she wants it.

 

[scrouds]

Find some other btches