"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a hard time being myself in groups. It's like, as soon as a third person hits the fray, my state just diminishes and my ego comes in and ruins it all. I end up becoming silent and restricted from expressing myself for the rest of my night and trapped in my mind. This has been going on forever. It's destroying my spirit.

I want to just let go and be myself in front of people. Even groups of kids that I don't know that well. I mean how else do you make friends? I don't masturbate anymore, been 2 and half weeks in. I've been working out at the gym for a month. Overall I feel really good when I'm by myself or around one other person. But I feel disconnected from everyone. Still. With this excess of energy flowing in my stomach.

It seems like everyone else can just go off on their own random tangents comfortably. I sometimes can but it's very rare. I think the internet has ruined my social skills. Reading seduction knowledge constantly all the time has just made me more over-analytical and I haven't been taking more steps in the right direction. I think the right move is to quit Facebook, quit sosuave, and go out and get a real life so I do have things worthy of talking about. Because as of now, I really don't except extreme nerd concepts lol.

I can't explain it. It's like I find most conversation be completely pointless and uninteresting and dull. I'm like a dead inside, I don't find anyone else interesting, I don't find myself interesting, or anything interesting. I guess maybe I just need to get off the internet for good, go out, get a job and get moving in the outside world. I've heard things like the computer ruining socialization skills if abused. Is there any merit to this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Waking Up said:
I just need to get off the internet for good, go out, get a job and get moving in the outside world.
You know exactly what you have to do! What are yo waiting for?
 

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I just don't find life interesting at all, so I rarely have things to do discuss with people. It's like I've lost all interest in life. I have nothing positive to share hardly anymore. So I can't really talk to girls or group socialization or anything.
 

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So, that means you feel trapped, nowhere to go. Like there's nothing left to look forward to. There's nothing outside your house that motivates you but you know that is where you're supposed to be. You feel hopeless, like handicapped, am I right or did I miss the point?
 

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I am motivated to leave my house. I do so quite often. I just feel trapped in my head when socializing. Like what's the point of talking anyway? I just don't see the point in a lot of the trivial **** people get off to.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's a learned behaviour. It's not something you take off in a few weeks. It might take you half a year, maybe one, but you (we, actually) have to do something, consistently, to get rid of that. Try getting yourself into those kind of situations and try to get out of it. Watch some standup comedy, look how guys like the Carlin used to take over, how comedians like Marc Maron can mesmerize a whole group with his conversation skills when he's not doing comedy.
 

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Waking Up said:
It seems like everyone else can just go off on their own random tangents comfortably. I sometimes can but it's very rare. I think the internet has ruined my social skills. Reading seduction knowledge constantly all the time has just made me more over-analytical and I haven't been taking more steps in the right direction. I think the right move is to quit Facebook, quit sosuave, and go out and get a real life so I do have things worthy of talking about. Because as of now, I really don't except extreme nerd concepts lol.

I can't explain it. It's like I find most conversation be completely pointless and uninteresting and dull. I'm like a dead inside, I don't find anyone else interesting, I don't find myself interesting, or anything interesting. I guess maybe I just need to get off the internet for good, go out, get a job and get moving in the outside world. I've heard things like the computer ruining socialization skills if abused. Is there any merit to this?
It sounds like a problem of the soul you have. If you don't find anything interesting, you have to make serious changes. It means you have no passions. If you have no passions, you aren't really living for anything. You're simply existing.

The lack of social skills is a symptom of the problem, not the cause of the problem itself. You need a new philosophy of life. This world is literally bursting at the seams with interesting things. If you can't find something interesting or develop any passions, then you have a problem to fix deep within and only some serious soul searching will help you.
 
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